I have been wondering who is more mature, which conversation is better with a younger person or older person, who would be more suitable actually not just for me but at this age now. When you're in your twenties is it better to date someone closer to your age, someone who is within your generation, who you can confide in, who knows what kind of music you enjoy, how to have a good time, you're able to communicate and understand the latest slang words and other things you find can discuss at the topic of discussion. I have dated someone younger only by a couple of years. It was fun, exciting, it could be more enjoyable for you if you both are on the same page. 2006 was a big year for me I don't know why but it was though...I met this guy through one of my closest friends I was 19 going on 20, he was turning 18 so it wasn't the worst thing. I think for the two of us it worked because of the stage we were at in our lives. We we're still young enough to relate to each other and date. At 19 I went through a lot of changes, and experiences that definitely changed me a lot and gave me major knowledge about certain issues and topics. Now I also did date someone who was 30 and I was 19 at the time back in college I was studying and majoring in Journalism for my Associates degree, about to finish and go on to Hunter. Now I won't deny he wasn't the only person who I had a romantic encounter with but one thing I will tell you the second person was my age, it wasn't serious but brief. It was easier cause we could identify with each other. I think dating the 30-year-old was good for me because we had a lot in common at the time. Yet it helped me and made me more knowledgeable about "The Game", relationships, and the dating world. It made me see that there is a huge difference in everything. I am grateful for it though cause if I didn't and had not gone through it, I wouldn't have learned those lessons right. Absolutely. The one thing I can tell you dating someone who is younger though has it's disadvantages and advantages too. Now I am going to tell you my little story I was blind-sided in love with this man, this before I graduated from the first college I attended, he was in my Contemporary Moral Issues class, and I fell hard for him. I knew we couldn't be together forever because he wanted to provide him with children, now I would love a family, but at 19 years old back then, honey I was still partying!, I was going out with friends, and I was getting my education. I wasn't thinking about babies at that time. I had a great bond with him, but I believe at the time he was looking for a long-term relationship with the possibility of a great family he wanted four, I couldn't provide him with that and probably marriage. I think at the time if it had happened I wouldn't have had some good experiences I have been blessed to have. So being involved with an older person when you're in your late teens you have to be careful. Especially where you are in your life. I can tell you people have been doing this for years. I know people personally who have been in a relationships younger or older than them it works and for some reason they keep on growing and developing. So for every person it's different, I am not hear to judge my readers ever.
DISADVANTAGE
For example let's say he's 19 and the woman is 25. All right legally he is 19, he is of age, he's not jailbait technically. He's probably still in college, some university, or studying a craft/trade. Now he probably is still at home with his parents. The 25 year old woman is probably more established, she has matured, she's a grown woman, establishing herself all ready. It makes you wonder how would the couple get along because if she is all ready ahead of the game, she's dating someone younger and he's not as advanced as her. He doesn't know how to manage money financially, he may not have the funds to support himself, he may not have his own home yet. It can sometimes make males feel like they cannot be supportive, they cannot contribute to the relationship giving the woman/man what he or she may need. ADVANTAGE
You're dating someone who is 5 to 10 years younger than you or older. One of the biggest advantages that you have is the person is wiser, more mature, they can have give you knowledge and advice that will help you and last for years. Dating someone younger keeps your spirit young, your able to feel and know about the latest things, stories, gossip, technology, fitness, fashion etc. It makes you more appealing to the person because
Dating someone older can often make you feel like you still have a lot of life ahead of you. You may not be able to relate to them. You're not mature enough to handle certain responsibilities. Yet while you are in the relationship and dating them, you grow, you become more confident, and you're learning all of the responsibilities to become a better person.
So people can dating an older man or woman/younger man or woman more suitable for your lifestyle, how would it benefit you, and make you so much better in the end. It gives you something for free knowledge, love, and you're smarter during the duration of the relationship. I can tell you from my experience younger or older it made me more educated in general of people, backgrounds, and taught me minor and big lessons as well.
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