I decided to document my life a bit more
but this time it will be for a year until the big day of one of my closest
friends wedding. I believe this will be a lot of fun to give you a glimpse of
what its like when conducting a wedding. A wedding takes time, preparation,
thought, consideration of both
parties, the bride and groom, their traditions, and their families. I am very
happy to be apart of this day cause they both mean a lot to me.
So from now to
next year you will learn about the
production of a wedding and the process it takes to get everything done behind
the scenes. Who’s getting married?
Well two of my best friends next
summer, Christian “Chris” Fernandez to Marisa Elizabeth Sardella aka
“Macaroni”. I call her "Angelita" and "Macaroni" and I am Chloe aka “Cheese” or “Chlois” (Chris
calls me) cause our bond has been
so strong. We really have a great friendship and it has stood many tests. Yet
we stick together just like Macaroni & Cheese the name works so I have so many nicknames, if I adore you, you’ve been
or become a part of my life you probably have a nickname by me. So I wanted to share with you my
readers.
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| LOL, a throwback of me and one of my besties....lol! "Macaroni (Marisa) & Cheese (Chloe)" for life lol =) circa 2007 |
I really had to
sit back and think about some of the weddings I have attended I have been to
since I was 16 about 4 weddings now this will be my fifth, I even been a witness to a wedding in a courthouse, the first wedding I attended I went to in Queens a
long time ago it was summer of 2002, with some friends of mine, I actually met
one of the guys his name was really handsome his name, Russell (his middle name Handsome
not kidding) I went on my first date with him at this wedding.
We dated
briefly, keep in mind this was 2002, not now, we went to see “XXX” with Vin Diesel lol! I love that movie and him in
it. That was my first real date that summer. This will be my fourth wedding actually and I am so proud to
be attending and also witnessing, being apart of the wedding behind the scenes
and in front as well. How long have I known Marisa Sardella, well let me tell
you the story, she always laughs when I tell people how we met as young kids. We even documented it once on tape,
cause I think its pretty funny. So I am going to tell you….the truth, how, why,
when, and where we met….which led us now to this day.
All right lets go
back to the past a bit and I will tell how we met. Keep in mind this was 14 years ago…..It was summer of 2000 I
just graduated from St. Peter’s Grammar School in Jersey City, New Jersey where
I was living in Newport Presidential apartments in the downtown area. I was
going to class but I was struggling for a long time probably since first grade.
I always had an issue with Mathematics and always needed assistance. However,
when I got to junior high I really needed to improve my Mathematics skills and even English as well. I had
been going to tutoring which my school provided, but I was also given the
option of extra private tutoring as well. So I decided during that time I
didn’t want to go, I got afraid, fearful, and a bit lazy too. I had a Math
teacher who was also my eighth grade teacher who intimidated me. She tried to
instill fear in me. Yet that never happened my parents wouldn’t allow it , the
proof’s in the work now believe me. =)
I just decided not to attend, my mom was
giving me money and I kept the payments never giving them to my tutor (bad girl
but really just not living up to my potential back then not considering what I
would accomplish). My tutor, Ms.
Peretti was awesome, sweet, and I
don’t know what came over me. I just didn’t feel the need to attend at that
time. So what happened, here’s the twist of what happens next. On my graduation
brunch day, I kid you not at all I had a strong intuition something bad may
happen that day only because I just didn’t feel right. I have a strong
intuition it can just be something come over me and I know it’s not the best
thing for me.
I
couldn’t believe it, but here’s the interesting twist that summer day in June. My teacher approaches me, and wants to
meet my mother actually. I am not lying to you she comes to my mom and tells
her “Chloe’s been missing tutoring she never showed up”. Oh man, when my mother
and my stepfather, Mike found out. All hell broke loose, my stepfather used to
have a black 1998 Navigator which he named, “Eva Naomi” (after his aunt & grandmother) he
parked the car, we drove off, and my mother was livid. I was screamed at,
yelled at, and I couldn’t even come up with a good excuse either for why I
didn’t want to attend tutoring, why I didn’t want to go, and also I had to deal
with the consequences. I felt
horrible, embarrassed, ashamed, and disappointed I let my mother down. She just
bought me this beautiful turquoise dress, for my graduation, spent money on my
graduation dress it was a yellow and white ball gown dress with a yellow corset
I remember I even had to get the dress tailored too the zipper needed fixing. I
had just went to summer jam as well. Lol! She went all out for me, including dinner at Newport Café at
the Marina on the Hudson (I had my 13th birthday party there too). I had to attend summer school and it was
the only way to improve my grades, as well as admit me into the high school.
So what happened
next….I had to go to summer school
at one of the 3 high schools I had chose before I entered as a freshman
that fall of 2000. I had to take a standardized test before we were to choose
which high school we would attend in our area and section as well. It’s so
funny how life works and I did not see this coming at all, but sometimes in
life things have a great way of working out for a special reason. I chose
St.Dominic’s Academy, St. Aloysius High School, and Academy of Sacred Heart.
The last school was the one that accepted me and I was admitted into that high
school that fall. I started summer school late June the last week in 2000 and
it ended the last week of July of 2000. My stepfather dropped me off that
morning and wished me luck. He never judged me with that, he supported me, and
wished me well. I went into the
small school it had about 5 floors though. I started the class English first
person I met was one girl named Karen L. I will call her and the next 4 people would become apart of
my life as well. I met Marisa she was wearing a purple outfit I believe, and
these cute black strappy sandal shoes I loved. She seemed sweet, fashionable,
fun, but very reserved.I met her when we were thirteen our birthdays were both towards the end of the year. I am a month older, we always just hung out. The next thing
I know we became fast friends, we all hung out together at lunch, in
class, and because our last names were towards the end of the alphabet we
always were seated near each other. We had tons of people sitting our lunch
table always coming and going. It was she, myself, Karen Samaniego one of our
other dear friends, Lisa C., our dear friend, Kaisa, and probably 4 or 5 other
people. We always had a great time and hung out telling stories, talking about
our lives, and everything. I learned a great deal from those girls and they
became part of my life in some big ways. Oh by the way I passed both of my classes I even took my
homework on vacation. I did very well at Academy of Sacred Heart. I made really
great grades, participated in Basketball I was a center for only a year, Drama
Club, and Choir. One thing I
should mention I left Academy of Sacred Heart a year later, and attended high
school in Manhattan I graduated from Cathedral high school. However, Marisa and
I always remained friends I would visit her at school, we kept in touch, she
even walked with me on my graduation day. See how good of a friend people can
be they will walk in 90 degree weather, I appreciated that tremendously on that
day. A lot of important people in my life were missing that day but I thank god
she was there too. We also went to college we attended Bergen Community College. together for about a year in a half she left me in the fall of 2006 only cause she was moving (there came the true test of friendship) and she went to Rider University, she majored in Liberal Arts and Languages. I left a year later got my associates and you know my loyal readers I got my associates in Journalism, went to Hunter College, majored in Media Studies, and graduated as well.
Time changed us all we went through a lot. I
can go in more detail as my “Life of a bridesmaid” series goes on but I will
tell you this nearly 15 years later the two of us are still friends. We have
been to Italy, Las Vegas, and other places of course. We have been on double
dates together, one of my boyfriends she went to school with as well his name
was Justin Lamboy. His best friend, Asaru was Marisa’s ex-boyfriend and first
boyfriend as well. I tell you this though honestly it was puppy love, we were
so young, immature, inexperienced back then. I can tell you some funny stories about that time.
We grew up
together though always hanging out high school dances at Hudson Catholic or
Saint Peter’s Prep, birthday parties, sweet 16s, sleepovers, two talk shows:
Wendy Williams & Tyra Banks, double dates, graduation celebrations, going
to the movies, shopping (a lot of shopping or window shopping), traveling, we even lived together with 4 Italian
girls in Italy for nearly 2 months, and so much more. We have been apart of
each other’s lives through a lot of difficult moments, challenging moments, and
many things and now that we are adults it means so much more now.
We have met so
many different people but managed to maintain that friendship and bond though
for years. I am fortunate and I am thankful that we have a friendship that has
gone through some tests, even with distance, we just maintained it, thank god
for technology! That’s one way we kept in touch even being apart from people,
you have to find a way to keep the bond strong and maintain that. It’s a lot of
work, but I am always happy that there’s someone in the world who can I
consider a friend though. It was not easy trust me. If you knew what we both
had to go through you would be like “Damn!”.
So now that
everything is finally falling into place and that she has the life she deserves
and that she has wanted I am very happy, proud, and honored to be apart of this huge piece and part
of the life and chapter of her story. She always told me one of her dreams was
to become a teacher, accomplished, she wanted to married to the love of her
life, accomplished, I think God has blessed her truly and her family is so
sweet, understanding, and supportive of the two of them their story has blossomed. Happy to see it get here. =)
So now we are
getting ready for the first dress fitting there will be different selections to
chose from now. So we will see
what happens in the future. 5 bridesmaids and 1 maid of honor her little sister
who I think is too adorable since I first met her she’s not a little
six-year-old princess anymore she’s grown up into a young woman on us as well lol. The groom’s brother and sister I have seen grow up as well
so it’s really sweet to see it happen for them. I am trying to convince her she
needs a cute flower girl for the ceremony Lol! =) but we will see I am going to
keep working on it. =) I know we are all in for a really fun, exciting,
meaningful, enlightening adventure and experience of our lives. Congratulations
and Thank you again “Macaroni” and Chris see you soon. All right readers stay tuned to more information and my
adventure as a bridesmaid. =)
There’s so much I have learned about friendships from her, all of my friends believe me, over the years as well. I can probably give people tips on friendships. So here are a few to help you. You're never too old or young for friends and "besties" lol =)
- First tip….allow and encourage your friend to grow, sometimes we want them to stay how they are when we first me them (I am lucky my friend has grown but maintained her sweetness), but you have to allow them to become the person they are meant to be, sometimes it means sacrificing certain things, or even extending yourself.
- Second tip….Be honest
- Third tip…don’t be judgmental on anything if it’s something like constructive criticism then by all means but don’t judge your friend especially when they chose or you to chose to have them in your life, when they are good to you as well.
- Fourth tip…Arguments are healthy
- Fifth tip…Travel together that’s how you get to know each other.
- Sixth tip…Support them when they need it you never want to see the person you care for hurt, injured, cold, suffering, without food, or anything they don’t have. (I learned that early)
- Seventh tip…Give and receive gifts, advice, whatever not just material gifts but reciprocating everything pays off on the two of you and your group of friends as well.
- Eighth tip….Treat them like your family
- Ninth tip…Help them always especially when they need it the most, to try new things, trying new things as friends (just the two of you or more) that helps build memories and maintains the bond.
- Tenth tip…Forgiveness is important
*BONUS KEEP IN TOUCH, LIVE, LAUGH,
LOVE, AND LEARN FROM YOUR FRIENDS =) LAUGH & LAUGH ALWAYS TOGETHER TELLING
JOKES HELPS A LOT AND I BELIEVE THAT’S THE KEY. Also sharing is caring!!!! Lol!
Cherish every memory, moment it all goes by so fast.
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