Thursday, August 1, 2013

"Soulful Songbird" & "Handsomeness": Can you have two loves in your life?


"If you love two people at the same time, choose the second. Because if you really loved the first one, you wouldn't have fallen for the second.”


― Johnny Depp



Aside from loving my industry, loving home-cooked food and meals, shopping, watching a fun television show, family,  listening to a new song that can hit your soul. I also believe I have realized I have two loves of my life actually. I am so in love with with these two people it hurts but I move forward every day believing and knowing I will find the person for me but at the same time it's kind of making things difficult when you have constant reminders every single day about someone you had to let go. Or who may have let you go. I believe I have two loves of my life i I realize yes I am attracted to driven, goal-oriented, confident, attractive, funny, athletic men, who happen to have tattoos lol!



It hurts a lot when you're not with these people all you want to do is share your life with them, be with them, spend time with them, even when you're doing the most simplest thing. I am trying to move forward but part of my heart and head is like "You know damn well you still aren't over this completely". Part of me I try to tell myself there is more, there's more to consider. You have to get back to dating again yes. I am....slowly I am like that caterpillar in the cocoon slowly wanting to come out and transform into the butterfly. Or a beautiful building being created but there's just a blueprint. Believe me I am going to get there but it's a matter of being honest with yourself. I cannot deny when I am away from this person yes I can move on and move forward but at the same time. I still need this person. Apart of me always knows in the back of my mind I still do want this person too. I mean we will see......I know I want more I deserve more. Yet you cannot deny yourself  you can't deny how you feel either.


Now some may believe and think oh she's just being greedy, well mind you here's the full story one of these people I did date actually however long it may have been is between us, we had a common bond, and I believe we did care about one another very deeply. I believe with time, maturity, and once we are in a great place financially and have come into our own even more as adults that we could possibly be together one day. The second person I never really was in a long-term relationship with we have known each other for years, our families go way back, we went out on a date once, something may have happened, but I know when I see him I still feel like the little girl I used to be sometimes, wanting to look great for him, getting super excited to see him, and I know I would be totally comfortable with him completely. Either one of them I would be totally comfortable with actually. Now who am I talking about "Handsomeness" and "Soulful Songbird". "Handsomeness" I have known him for a couple years now and "Soulful Songbird" I have known him for 2 decades. I believe they will always be two of the people I may feel the most comfortable with not only that but who also have probably meant the most to me over the years.  When it comes to the love and relationships department. It made me raise the question can you have two loves in your life?

Sometimes I do have to remind myself what about the future? What about the next person you meet. Yes that doesn't seem fair to the next man right. I know what some of my readers are probably wondering. That won't be fair to him because he will never know what those two other people did, or why they mean that much to you either. Yet at the same time it's something that I cannot hold in though. That's how I feel inside, I told my readers not only would I share the news, fashion, movies, and whatever else. I told you I would share the truth about my life, my thoughts, and what is dear to me with all of you. 

No it won't be fair to the next person who enters my life but he will have to know just like with every human being you come with a past, with people who you loved or cared about before you two became an item, that's called experience. That's called knowing who you are, and also knowing what you want as well. It's not like I only cared about these two people in my life no.....I did date other people but what I meant is the gentlemen who tug at my heart strings the most. The two who I believe I will always care for no matter what. So I wonder is it just my feelings for them will never go away or is it just they will just be apart of me and that's the reality of the situation? I wish you all could tell me do you have more than one love in your life?

Scandal Television Show Expands the Brand to Two Networks

Scandal love this show I should have written about this earlier but I think this is no better time, Scandal starring, Kerry Washington, ("Ray (2004), Last King of Scotland, Save the Last Dance, For Colored Girls, Peeples, Django Unchained, now with as ("Olivia Pope")  she stars along with Tony Goldwyn ("President Fitzgerald Grant), Columbus Short ("Harrison Wright"), Henry Ian Cousick ("Stephen Finch"), Katie Lowes ("Quinn Perkins"), Guillermo Diaz ("Huck"), Bellamy Young ("Mellie Grant") , Jeff Perry ("Cyrus Beene"), Darby Sanchfield "Abby Whelan", Joshua Malina ("David Rosen"), and Kate Burton.
The cast of the hit series, "Scandal"













The show produced by the Emmy-winning producer, writer, the head woman in charge, Shonda Rhimes and her team of writers produce an incredible television show where they take the viewers on a ride inside the political world of the White House. We get a view of what happens in the oval office,  behind the oval office, and we step into the life of the problem solver, crisis manager life of Olivia Pope. It leaves you hanging on every episode you want to know what's next because there's a cliffhanger every single week that makes you intrigued, excited to know about these rich, complex, diverse characters. I have been tuning in since last year and I cannot wait to watch the first season, second season, and of course be apart of the third season which left us all speechless with that amazing ending this year.
Now Scandal is apart of two television major networks ABC Network and now BET Networks which makes perfect sense to expand the show and brand. Especially for those who may have missed the show during the fall season catching up on work or school. Scandal has become such a household name women and men want to dress exactly like the stylish characters on the show, the costumes are modern, conservative, classy, tailored, and it suits this generation and the workplace. Women want to be the ladies inside the room of Pope & Associates on the television show. The show has such a large following "Gladiators" like myself tune in weekly when the show is in season. So make sure you follow and watch too because this show has all ready earned some major awards and Kerry Washington has gone home with a NAACP award for her role in Scandal, and has broken barriers, and so many opportunities have been opened for a lot of minority female actresses, writers, and producers as well. Tune in this fall in September  for it's third season. You know I will be tuning in very excited about this season.
Make sure you check out these two websites for more information at
http://www.bet.com  &  http://www.abc.com 
Olivia's Fashion Sense Tailored, Sophisticated, Classic, and Elegant 

Monday, July 29, 2013

Some men to avoid when you go clubbing

Stick with your girls the whole night always safety in numbers
All right ladies I went out a couple weeks ago for a very fun night for Soulful Songbird's (Anyone who's read my blog for the last couple of years knows who "Soulful Songbird" is and if you know me well you know who he is and why I protect him). It was his birthday party he had at a club just happened to be Timbaland vs Neptunes night. I arrived with my girlfriends we stayed inside for a bit and then I decided to go outside. I saw some people who know him very well of course. He makes his grand amazing entrance. It had been a while since I had seen him and we don't get a chance to see each other often.
 So I see him and of course everything in the world is all right again. He touched my hand, looked at me, was surprised, and I am happy the night went pretty good, I got to dance with him,  my feet were killing me in my 4 inch black suede strappy-sandal wedge pumps, my black/mint green dress with the mesh front, and I got to dance with him of course now in this situation every female should be happy when you're dancing with the man of your dreams, and everything is going great. 
Always stay with your girls =)
That's the perfect situation...but sometimes going to clubs aren't always the "ideal night" and this happened to me too when you're out clubbing and dancing then you have a couple awkward situations happen but luckily I have learned how to deal with it over the years. I have been going to clubs now since I was 18 actually. 
You are out dancing and then you get the man who just randomly grabs you and then you wind up dancing with him cause you want to avoid a fight right. But then he opens his mouth and then he breathes to ask you what your name is and he has dragon breath. 

Ladies when this happens always keep breath mints, gum, or Listerine strips in your purse, clutch, or wallet, because no lady wants to ever speak to a man and still try to talk and make conversation with him. You need to leave and grab your girls right away. Now because the party we were at was so loud I would recommend ahead of time to either text your friend or have a special code word like "Code D" so you can get this man away from you right away. Now some of you may think this is silly but honestly a lot of ladies get into situations like this and you need your girls to support you and have your back. 

Okay next situation....your dancing with a guy and he decides that he wants to act like a little chihuahua   and capture you like you're an antelope in a lions mouth. That's when you know for sure Code D means get out of this situation immediately because you need to get out of there right away. He is going to be torturing you the whole night. Avoid and nip right in the bud immediately. 

The next man who thinks he can buy you drinks all night long and he thinks you owe him a dance and your phone number. Now for this situation can come a  few positive results but when you are stuck and you need to get out of this situation use Code D right away. He may not be your type too aggressive, not just what you are interested in at all. I need help get me out of here because you are seriously bugging me and I don't want you thinking I am going to go home with you or call you because you bought me and my girls drinks all night long. Now only use the code word unless you are attracted to this generous man buying you and your girls drinks. Never go home with the man you met at the bar unless you know him and you trust him. I have learned that lesson well he actually ended up dating me later so that was my advantage but usually if you have just met don't go home alone with the man.

The last man you want to avoid of course is the one who decides to sneak stuff and put in ladies drinks when you are so distracted, partying, and having a great time. Then he wants to drop stuff in your drink, hold on to your drink, if anything doesn't seem right then leave the drink on the table and then get a brand new one. So keep this in mind and hopefully you'll have the "perfect situation" happen that night when you go clubbing dancing with someone you actually have feelings for and enjoy.  
Most of all have a great time! Be safe

Monday, July 15, 2013

What are we teaching the next generation-Trayvon's story

I love when I get a chance to show readers there's more to me than just talking about fun television shows, movies, relationships, or whatever else is going on inside "Honey Brown Sugar's world" I love when I get a chance to showcase what I am really about and what means the most to me is when a story like this falls into my lap and I get to share my opinions about the case. I am talking about the Trayvon Benjamin Martin story (1995-2012). He was killed after being shot through the chest on a rainy night on February 26, 2012 in Sanford, Florida. 


 

Trayvon’s Story
I have not had a chance to write about his case. It definitely touched my heart especially on a personal level. I have not expressed how I have been making sure I stayed tuned in to this case there’s something about a trial for some reason that always makes me eager to learn more especially in a case of this nature. You have an innocent 17-year-old out on a dark night. Then you have a neighborhood watcher who could have picked a better story than this then the almighty above right. It makes perfect sense. Now none of us were all there unless if you were right in that neighborhood to witness the tragedy that would lead to this case. It raises a lot of questions though is the court of Sanford, Florida taking everything seriously. I keep wondering because when you look and see the playback from all of the videos from the court, all of the testimonies, especially the one with Trayvon’s friend testifying on his behalf because she was one of the last people who heard his voice. It makes you see some of the stereotypes that people still put against each other. When will people ever look at a case and focus on the people. Obviously racism is somewhat still alive. This will always continue but it is up to the court to focus not on the race but one justice, focusing on the life that was taken, because look at bottom line. He was shot and killed, even if he put his hands on George Zimmerman he never took his life, if he pushed him down and scraped the back of his head, then that is fair, his wounds have healed, but now the focus of this case should be focused on the law, Florida’s law, and also just basic common sense. The man took someone’s life let’s forget about him being an African American teen. Lets focus on he killed someone and justice needs to prevail. If he was out on a late night mind you, remember one thing, he had no weapons on him, he had a packet of candy on him, which is harmless enough. I don’t think his intentions were to harm another person. I believe he wanted to defend himself but I don’t believe he wanted to do something that drastic. Again remember this was one kid out by himself, in the dark, minding his own business, his plan wasn’t to go on the attack. It would be a blessing if there was actual real footage of the event taking place that night.  Its kind of crazy that you have to go by memory of that night, when one person is unable to defend their case and story. You have to go by the defendant only who is being accused and charged, God I hope justice will be served for his family, and people will be wise, smart, and really make the best decision possible. This is one of those cases that will never go away it’s going to be part of history I believe for a long time.
One thing I will say he sparked, changed, and made a fashion statement become one of the most politically charged topics, his hoodie, often being mistaken for a thug or some common hoodlum. He actually was just wearing a piece of clothing to protect himself. I don’t believe this kid was a thug not because he just happens to be black but the signs all point to him being someone who knew what he was doing, was trying to achieve more for himself. He came from a two-parent home, grew up with both parents who obviously provided for him, and most of all loved him with their whole hearts. Something about the whole case does not feel right. I believe there’s more there’s a reason Zimmerman does not want to testify. If he did he would blow his cover I believe. Maybe he doesn’t want to go up and be put in the spotlight. Maybe he’s scared but what it comes down to he doesn’t want to blow up his spot though.
I wrote the first part one day before they announced the verdict live around the world on television major networks. Now I can really express and say how I feel I along with the rest of the world found out about his story on the news and from a relative who lives in the “Stand Your Ground” state. I heard the story and immediately thought to myself I am going to invest into it. I wore my hoodie proudly a pink hoodie days afterward, I signed the petition posted on change.org, and now I am ready to tell you that believe me this kid did not deserve to be shot at all. I see his image, he could have been my little brother, he could be my cousin, my next door neighbor, my co-worker’s son, my boyfriend,  or even my son. I see his face I see my father, my brother, my cousin, my uncles, all of the men who are or were apart of my life and it hits you.
 I look and see a future now where young men have to still live in a world where they are not valued, appreciated, or even respected for being successful, for just being a typical teenager. I see him and think about his parents, his family, the lives he touched, the potential he had and where he would have gone, and I feel for their family. Now how do we change our system to see black and brown men and women as people. We need to remind them over and over again we are valuable in this country, we work just as hard to be successful, and to have lives that are lived to pursue and to be happy. How can you live in a world who still does not honor the value of life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness. We still don’t value the constitution, the bill of rights, everything goes out of the window when it comes to a story like this. We need a judicial system who believes in valuing a human life. He walked, spoke, ate, he saw,  he listened, he felt, and he was a human being. He was intelligent probably on his way to a bright future going to college possibly breaking more barriers for an African American young man. Now how do we get you to see he didn’t deserve to be shot in the heart period point blank. 

It doesn’t matter if Zimmerman was a neighborhood watcher, he obviously was looking out for himself by having a weapon, and he didn’t consider the nature of what he was doing, and he didn’t consider the life he destroyed as well.  
Now let's go back to basic grammar school and high school remember this?...Reconsider everything put everything into perspective now. Now if you read the definitions below and just remind yourself of what they all mean, now think about Trayvon's case, and keep an open mind to everything, and remember he was a human being, on planet Earth, living in America, where he was supposed to be free to live, breathe, and walk down the street.  
From the U.S. Constitution (The first portion of the Preamble)
We the people of the United States, in order to form a more perfect union, establish justice, insure domestic tranquility, provide for the common defense, promote the general welfare, and secure the blessings of liberty to ourselves and our posterity, do ordain and establish this Constitution for the United States of America.

(From the Second Amendment "The Right to Bare Arms"
Pointing out that interest in the “character of the Second Amendment right has recently burgeoned,” Justice Thomas, concurring in the Court’s invalidation (on other grounds) of the Brady Handgun Violence Prevention Act, questioned whether the Second Amendment bars federal regulation of gun sales, and suggested that the Court might determine “at some future date . . . whether Justice Story was correct . . . that the right to bear arms ‘has justly been considered, as the palladium of the liberties of a republic.’ ” 1
Remember this....=)





Remember this keep this all in mind because at the end of the day this is what it really should matter in the end. 

Noun
      Freedom-The power or right to act, speak, or think as one wants without hindrance or restraint.
      Absence of subjection to foreign domination or despotic government.



I am just saying re-read it and remember every young man needs to be judged by his actions not based on how he dresses, he never committed a crime, or an act. He minded his own business. Remember that. 







Sunday, July 7, 2013

"Devious Maids" New Series Heats Up Airwaves

Devious Maids produced by Eva Longoria and Marc Cherry both part of the hit serious six season cast of Desperate Housewives is what has been making headlines across the television series and is guaranteed to women very happy with this dramatic, funny, comedic series. It is just as wickedly funny as the characters on Desperate Housewives but it has more of a serious and complex tone to the television show. The episodes can be a bit shocking but keep their viewer intrigued, and wanting to know what's next. 
With all of these new shows making their way it is guaranteed to make everyone watch on Sunday


nights. 
Devious Maids stars an all-star cast, Susan Lucci, (All My Children, Dallas, Dancing with the Stars), Roselyn Sanchez (Rush Hour 2, Act of Valor,  The Game Plan, and Boat Trip), Dania Ramirez , (X-Men, She Hate Me, Fat Albert, and American Reunion ), Ana Ortiz (Ugly Betty, Big Momma's House, Little Girl Lost   ), Judy Reyes (Scrubs, Little Girl Lost, End of the Road) , Brianna Brown (General Hospital, Knocked Up, The 40-Year Old Virgin, Spider Man 2), Mariana Klaveno (While Children Sleep, HBO's True Blood), Grant Show (Melrose Place, Accidentally on Purpose,Swingtown, The Possession). 

The pilot episode stunned me and right away I loved it especially with the introduction of the series. I cannot wait until the next one. With the way the very first maid was killed off on the show, you knew it was another hit leaving everyone wanting a lot more. Make sure you tune in to the show and support it.  Devious Maids airs on LMN (Lifetime Movie Network). It airs on Sunday nights at 10p.m. EST. 
Also visit the website for more information on local listings to watch the show at http://www.mylifetime.com

Friday, June 28, 2013

"The Ideal Woman"

Whew you gave me the ultimate compliment, brightened my day.
Made me happy to feel confident and powerful. Yet at the same time it gave me a reality check
reminding me of who I really am.

When a man calls you the ideal woman it makes you feel like you may have found someone who will appreciate your heart and appreciate the real you. 

For women who receive compliments from men don't always ignore them. Sometimes they are just everything that you need to hear to give you the that push on what you need. 

The extra push to pursue a dream you have had for so long it makes you put your heart and soul into it.
A dream that makes you smile so wide it makes every beautiful day, every taste of ice cream or anything sweet make you feel an inner peace and freedom.

The ideal woman an image of a stunning, glamourous woman comes to mind, she's cool, sophisticated, confident, she believes in herself, she's not snobby, but she has inner peace in herself that makes her satisfied. She knows how to please her man, she knows how to keep people happy, she knows how to treat people with respect and fairness, and she knows how to love herself. That's really what the ideal women can be. 
Meaning-
The ideal woman is supposed to be 36-24-36 with her measurements, it's unrealistic in our society, she is not real, but there is no greater feeling in the world to have someone admire you, appreciate, or give you that compliment. I just ask women whenever your significant other whoever they are, your friends, your family, someone gives you a powerful compliment take that and own it. That may just be the ticket of what you need. 

Wednesday, June 26, 2013

"Mistresses" one of the TV hot television tickets

Drama, Fashion, Heartbreak, Twists & Turns is the best way to describe The television series, sweeping the storm is of course "Mistresses"  which debuted June 03, 2013 on WABC with a five-star cast starring, Alyssa Milano, Yunjin Kim, Eric Stocklin, Brett Tucker, Alyssa Milano, Jes Macallan, Jason Winston George, and Rochelle Aytes. 

Is part of the ensemble cast it is a combination of "Sex and the City", a bit of "Desperate Housewives", "Revenge", but it takes on a new twist.  I didn't realize the series was based off the U.K.'s version of "Mistresses" but I like how they keep it modern, it is very relatable to today's generation and how people's families work on a regular basis. Every family now is non-traditional. You see it reflected in the relationship between Rochelle Aytes (April Malloy) and her interaction between her late husband's mistress and his child. The story line isn't similar to where the lead character is more reflective as in "Sex and the City" where it revolved around "Carrie Bradshaw's" life. The story line focuses on all four females and their lives how they intertwine together and they have a bond. 

Mistresses is guaranteed to hit and succeed with top ratings in the future. It came at a perfect time during the summer. It will become most women's ( ages 18-60) guiltiest pleasure when watching television and relaxing after a long day and getting into "bad television". One thing I love is how it is something provocative as the cast has discussed in interviews but it is really relatable and gives people the chance to relate to the stories and lives of the character that was created. 

It would be interesting if the series went into the fall. I would love to see how the ratings and viewership would compete with some of the other television shows that hit the airwaves again for another successful season. I believe ABC creates great television just as the other networks. It is something that makes you think but you find yourself in one of these four ladies, Savannah "Savi" Davis,  Josslyn Carver, April Malloy, and Karen Rhodes in the characters.  Stay tuned and keep watching I know I will be. 

Mistresses airs on WABC check your local listings and you can always watch episodes online as well. visit http:www.abc.com

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You know I love you all for reading to all of my readers thank you again and have a fabulous, fun, and safe summer until next time! =)

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