TIME TO ACCEPT REALITY

You cannot change a person unless they want to change themselves

You cannot allow a person to misuse you or make you feel below yourself at all.

When a person has hurt you once....face the fact that they will do it again when the time comes.

No matter how many times you have to listen to your conscience and you hear yourself say over and over again..."There's something different about this person." or "Second Chances are always the best." Or "Forgiveness" is always the way.
It may not be in your best interest because as they call it "poison thinking" and "poison friends or enemies" don't get you anywhere.
They may actually be just a genuine real human being. You have to face the fact that they are not meant to be in your life at all and it's time to accept reality.

Time to realize that you need to move past all the garbage and the people who have pushed or tried to bring you down. Time to realize that you need to declutter and put them towards the back burner as they say. Moving them completely out of your life and realizing they cannot be in your life. Whether if it is someone who does not want to accept you, tolerate you, or not willing to open their hearts or minds. Then maybe that person or people just aren't for you.

Time to accept reality. Time to face the future and realize that there is no going back to the past again. Unless if it is something beneficial for your existence. Not something or someone in your life that will cause you pain or harm.
Time to accept reality and the way things should be is that you have to face it and figure your way out of it. There's no point of going back. No point of going out of your way for that person or people if they truly do not feel the way you would like to or better yet even if they have not even met your standards of what the concept of giving, loving, and accepting another human being is all about actually.
TIME TO ACCEPT REALITY I EMPHASIZE THAT!!

DO YOU REMEMBER...

Thought about the song you know the song by that handsome, Jay Sean
"Do you remember?"
Made me want to write something...

"DO YOU REMEMBER IN YOUR THIS?"
By: Chloe Riccardo
Do you remember as a child growing up?

Do you remember playing with kids...red light, green light? Hide and go seek?

For the girls...dressing up in your mom's clothes and having tea parties.

I remember girl scouts, being in ballet, doing recitals, going to parties, painting as a child

Doing arts and crafts.

Playing ring around the rosie

Waiting for Halloween (I still do) to pick a costume out

Do you remember your first love, your first crush?

The first person to inspire you? The first person to break your heart?

The first time your parents told you they were proud of you?

Do you remember your first rollercoaster ride?

The first time you got in trouble in school?

The first concert you went to?

Your first school dance?

Do you remember your first time drinking (lol) for the older folks

Do you remember the first time you cried and laughed so hard your stomach hurt?

Do you remember the first movie you ever saw?

The first movie that scared you?

Do you remember the first bad grade you got?

Do you remember your first job?

Your first rejection?

Do you remember the first time you got your pay check?

Do you remember your first best friend?

I remember a lot of these things but my question to all of you and everyone is don't forget where you came from because all of those things are what prepared you to become the person you are today.

"I am a Queen looking for a King"

"QUEEN LOOKING FOR A KING"
OR LA REINA VISTO POR EL REY

"Queen looking for a King" by: Chloe J. Riccardo aka "Honey Brown Sugar"

I was watching the movie "Marie Antoinette" and you know she was the archduchess of Versailles & France and married to Louis Auguste, Dauphin of France. I love the idea of how they depicted their relationship and they had the ability to see past each others flaws and they sincerely grew to love and like each other as well. I am starting also to love all things that apply to royalty and the whole fairy tale ideal like that "Princess & the Frog" story or the other fairy tales like "Cinderella" or "Beauty & the Beast" lol... because I am a queen looking for a king myself now.

I am an African American Queen similar to the African Queens and all of the queens before me... I am looking for a king. A king who has high power, not an actual king but a man who treats himself and respects himself as the kings who have walked before us on the earth. A king is supposed to be the person in charge of the dynasty we plan to take hold of within the future. We are supposed to treat ourselves: mind, body, and spirit completely healthy and with respect. I want to be able to have a "castle" which would give our dynasty(the family we start one day) which would have our home and be able to start our childrens life together. I want to be able to give my king all he wants and desires. I also want to receive the same as well. So I would like to find my king...a man of power, stature, control, not dominating, or cold hearted. A man who is positive, giving, loving, has a good spirit, energy kind hearted, and good looks don't hurt (lol). Intelligent but not a know-it-all, No snob or slobs. A man who really cares for himself and is real, honest, and can give with his whole heart 100 percent to me. If he is ready for that. Just as a king can rule and can have power he looks out for others too and his family. Also the number one lady in his life besides his mother....his queen, his woman, his girlfriend/wife. So whoever my king will be I hope he knows that I expect and would simply love to be treated that way and I will give the same to him. I would like the both of us to look past everything and to repsect the golden rule "Do unto others as you would want done to you" and remember unconditional love is necessary for a healthy happy relationship Also...I do not settle for less. Lastly, if we are going to be joined together in a relationship we have to plan to rule the world together. If we shall meet he would be King of Hearts along with the Queen of Hearts, me...lol.

Too fly too waste my time on you

I AM TOO FLY...YEAH I SAID IT TOO FLY...TO FLY FOR YOU FOR ME TO BE WASTING MY TIME ON A FOOL LIKE YOU.
MY TIME IS PRECIOUS EVERY MOMENT, EVERY SINGLE DAY I REALIZE THAT I AM JUST TOO FLY FOR YOU TO BE WASTING MY TIME.
I HAVE THINGS TO DO...A LOT THAT CAN FILL AN ENCYCLOPEDIA.
I HAVE TOO MANY DREAMS, GOALS, AND THINGS TO ACCOMPLISH FOR MY LIFE.
I AM TOO FLY TO WASTE MY TIME ON YOU.
I APOLOGIZE FOR THE BLUNTNESS BUT I AM JUST KEEPING 100 AS THEY SAY AND OH SO REAL... BECAUSE SIMPLY I AM TOO FLY TO WASTE MY TIME ON YOU.
I HAVE SO MUCH TO DO AND I HAVE REALIZED THAT I AM WASTING IT ON SOMETHING THAT IS UNATTAINABLE SUCH AS YOURSELF.
IF YOU REALLY WERE WORTH IT. IT WOULD SHOW.
ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS AND CLEARLY YOUR WORDS AND ACTIONS HAVE SHOWN ME THAT YES I CAN NO LONGER WASTE MY TIME ON YOU.
I AM TOO FLY TO WASTE MY VALUABLE, PRECIOUS, TREASURED TIME ON A PERSON LIKE YOURSELF. SO NOW I MUST DO WHAT I HAVE TO DO. BECAUSE MY HANDSOME FRIEND, I AM TOO FLY TO WASTE MY TIME ON YOU.

Baby I am not perfect

"Baby I am not perfect" by: Chloe J. Riccardo

(Dedicated to all the women and men who find themselves trying to be supermen, superwomen this is for you...People have to realize you're human too and you can only be yourself)

Baby, I am not perfect not at all...

Why because I know my flaws.

Baby I am not perfect because I will never have your daydream's ideal figure, her voice, her scent, her smile, her style, her dress, or even her social circle because

Baby, I am not perfect.

I will never have the image of what's in your mind.

I'll never be able to have the ideal I.Q. that would simply take too much time to develop because I would need that time with you and Baby, I am not perfect.

I'll never look like the object that holds your attention in magazines, videos, or any form of media that captures your eyes attention or that you would find pleasing.

So baby, I am not perfect.

You may believe in your heart that your woman is supposed to be everything you ever dreamed of for the one who would capture and captivate your spirit and your being.

Baby, I am not perfect because I will never be able to be happy every single moment I am with you. I cannot have the happy, perky, jolly attitude. There will be moments when you may get frustrated, confused,disappointed, or upset. There will be moments when you realize I am not going to be the person you may have had in mind. I am not going to have everything that you may have dreamed of or thought I could be. So I want to let you know Baby, I am not perfect.

But Baby I may not be able to give you all that you desire and treasure within yourself.

So Baby, I have to let you know this ahead of time. If you and I are friends, lovers, or have a bond deeper than all the oceans and seas around the world. I have to let you know ahead of time before we share our worlds and lives together. Baby, I am not perfect.

What do you love about being an American in our country?

ARE YOU PROUD TO BE AN AMERICAN? TELL ME WHAT YOU LOVE ABOUT BEING AN AMERICAN? BY: CHLOE JEWEL RICCARDO AKA "HONEY BROWN SUGAR"

I am extremely proud of my country I really am. I even call myself a Black American Princess because I have been able to receive so much from a loving household. I am very proud to be an American because our country is built on some of the best character traits that are needed in order for you to make into society. We are built on power, strength, fight, persistence, love, sacrifice, control, and discipline. Our society needs that every day. Our country needs that every day at times I remind myself that once you walk out the door of your home you really do impact the world. You contribute something to your country. You represent what our country's motto is all about. So I want to know people what do you love about being an American?
What do you love about the USA? Can you tell me things disregarding the ugly side or the secrets. What do you love about our country? What do you enjoy about it that many people may not understand or even comprehend about our country. People all over the world visit North America every single day. They travel by bus, plane, train, car,and boat. Immigrants come to live here from foreign lands to be apart of the "land of opportunity". So you tell me what do you love about being an American. Think hard of it...do you appreciate all that is sacrificed for you. The military, the navy, the air force, our president's decision, our educational system, our judicial system, our values, the American dream that we have for ourselves every single day. You tell me what do you love about being an American. I love that I can walk outside and feel protected, I love that if I am not safe, or in harms way I can go to a police officer, I can get justice for my case, I can give to people, We are allowed to share our voices here and can be heard. I love that I can be able to have freedom to be myself completely and not be ashamed of anything. How I dress, how I think, how I feel, who I love, who I socialize with, or anything. I love that our country requires for you to learn lessons even when you know you have done wrong. I love that our country allows you to feel free to be yourself religiously, spiritually, and emotionally. I love that I can have a chance to have opportunities that the less fortunate may not have. But that the less fortunate can receive from kind hearted individuals and people who love with their whole being and heart. I love that we can be creative, invent, cure, and help those in the medical field. I love that people can fight for themselves and get what they believe in for example like Women's Suffrage, Gay,Lesbian, & Transgendered people, Handicapped, African Americans Social Movement, Immigrants coming from all over to explore and be heard. Our country has been through battles and we still are to do this day. I believe and love that we also are willing to sacrifice for their own rights. So that's the message of America. So you tell me people What do you love about being American? Are you proud to be an American?

TOP AFRICAN AMERICAN BACHELORS

" TOP AFRICAN AMERICAN BACHELORS"

BY: CHLOE RICCARDO AKA "HONEY BROWN SUGAR"

I knew this was something I had to write about and now this feels even more right for me to write this blog entry for my blogazine. Well in our society I have always noticed this about how people are treated especially minorities in society. Now don't get me wrong we have evolved over the centuries and definitely in this century. However, something I have noticed is that African American men and women are still treated to this day without respect and still have not ever been treated as equal individuals. I noticed it just tonight and its something that makes me wonder when will we ever been accepted as a people and not just looked at in a certain fashion or down upon. I went to a party and the party ended where the cops were arguing with the gentlemen I will say towards the end of the night were not treated well at all. The gentlemen just so happens to be African American. When I saw the display of him arguing it made me realize that our police officers still do not show us the same respect that we need displayed in todays society. It still affects us and it can still cause a problem for people. So I want to show the positive image of black men and women. Successful African American young men first. I am not going to forget about the ladies believe me they will get their share of time. I just want to focus on the males first. It is June right now , June is African American Music Month, and Father's Day is in this month. So I want to focus on the men first and then the ladies will get their recognition next. I really wanted to show this because at times a lot of images of African American men are not showed in a positive light to reflect what they really are about in society. I am giving you the African American men in society who from different fields and what they display in society. Some African American men come from entertainment backgrounds, political, arts, and so on. I will continue to add on and add more throughout the time I want to add more successful African-American men who need to acknowledged. I just want to give them their credit because at times it is not shown to people. They don't see the vast changes and powerful affects they can have on a generation.

Some of the most successful African American bachelors are from the ages between 20-40+...are

1. Shaffer Smith aka "Ne-Yo"

2. Reggie Bush of the New Orleans Saints

3. Floyd Mayweather

4. Lebron James

5. Ray J

6. 50 Cent

7. Trey Songz

8. Larry Johnson

9. Usher yes I love that man lolz but yeah Usher too

10. Tyler Perry

11. Lebron James

12. Lance Gross
All of these young African American bachelor's have been successful and have done very well for themselves in society proving that any average man is capable of doing the same for himself. All of these young men have projects they are working on at this moment.

Trey Songz has a new show called "My Moment" which will air and has just debuted on BET tomorrow June 29th, 2010. Which is a documentary focused on his life as an entertainer and performer. Lance Gross is still of course in many films and is on Tyler Perry (another one of the bachelor's I chose) on "House of Payne", Ne-Yo his new album will debut very soon titled Libra Scale which is his sign by the way lol his birthday is (October 18th). Usher of course you know his album is doing very well with songs in constant rotation on the airwaves. Lebron James they are trying their best to get him here in New York so we will see. So all of the bachelors I chose are very successful and prove that you can come from anywhere and can become successful. Each of them have their own story and their stories show that they you have the success, the drive, and power. You can be able to become successful and pursue your dreams with passion. It is always attainable. So to all the bachelor's I chose I hope you see I am not trying to exploit you but simply to honor all of you. That's what it is all about. Keep it up!!!! and Keep motivating us all. =)