Good Guys vs. Bad Guys & Good Girls vs. Bad Girls

I am no expert at all in this field of judging character cause I believe in the fact you don't know a person until you have spent a lot of time with them. When you're around them, their friends, their loved ones, their co-workers, and every one else important in their life. Then you can judge to see is this person he/she a good guy/girl or a bad guy/girl. Now in the beginning I was only going to focus on a good guys personality and how he treats a woman. However, now I have something better in mind. Let's take it both ways because as human beings no one is entirely perfect at all. You can have a perfect physique but there are flaws in everyone. That's what make us all unique individuals wondering this beautiful planet every day and night. Okay here we go my beloved blog readers....Good Guys vs. Bad Guys first. Let's say ladies you are out on a date with a guy and he is with you in the location you are at. A beautiful woman walks in the room and you see his eyes glance over at her. How do you respond? How do you react? Let's say you run to the ladies room and he begins speaking with her while you are in there. What do you do? Do you overreact or do you just calmly say "Who was that!?!". Let's say you're in a movie theater with your sweetie and a chick flick comes on the screen (now this is from personal experience). A chick flick comes on the screen and then suddenly you're sweetie says "I am not taking you to see that". Emphasis on Not...What does that mean that clearly he has some issues with exploring the female psyche. Why not go to a chick flick? Maybe it will help you understand that women sometimes need a guy to have an open mind? What is wrong with that. Especially if its not a chick flick with weeping and dramatic corny scenes. Something more interesting for both of you to enjoy. Clearly if your man says this to you...no matter how long you have been together (one month to fifty-years). You guys need to talk because your boo, baby, sugar dumplin', or sweetie pie has some explaining to do. Another example the ultimate test what does he say about you to your friends or to his friends. This is one of those good guys vs. bad guys tests immediately. If he shows lack of respect of you in front of his friends, his family, or anyone important he's not into being with you at all. If he refers to you in a derogatory fashion the man is not for you! This is when you know that its time to send him packing and get the steppin' lol because he is not interested in being with you.

Good guys let's say...you know when he's genuine...he's patient, considerate, respectful, attentive, he pays close attention to details of you...your visage (face), your physique, your hands, your nails, the sound of your voice, your scent, your hair, how you dress. He notices how you interact with others. He prides you on simply being yourself. He does not flirt with you in a disrespectful way or comes on too strong, forward, and aggressive. There's a way to be flirtatious without being obscene and disgusting at the same time. So if he clearly has that problem then he's not such a good guy and maybe he's the gentlemen above I discussed before. Now some other signs are he curious about your interest, he's playful, he wants to care for your needs. He wants to give you the time you need. He can be compromising and open to exploring what you and he wants as well. Now a good guy will know when to bring you home to mama and papa. He will know when he sees that you are not like the bad or wild chicks he has seen in his life. If he sees that this is someone he can put on a pedestal and show her she's a worthy queen and she will be the queen in his kingdom. Enough said he knows you are going to be the one who he needs and wants around him. He knows when you are the person who will be valuable to him. You are important for what he needs in a stable healthy relationship. You're not just his "jump off".

PART 2....Good Girls vs. Bad Girls.

A good girl is someone who you may consider classy, conservative, she has conservative views she may not be the buck wild, crazy, frisky, or party girl you see in music videos or who you see in some nightclubs. She may be a little more than that. She may show you she is above and beyond what you're actually looking for. She has a moral code that she sticks too. She may want to have a good time but knows how to limit herself. She doesn't have to cause a riot for crazy attention. She doesn't have to put on a scene with a whole lot of public attention. A good girl will show you the qualities you desire. Intelligent, Respectful, Funny, Polite, Attentive, Understanding, Giving, Nurturing, She knows how to stand her ground, Independent, Responsible, Considerate, and Helpful. As well as beautiful no matter what creed,race,sexual orientation, physique, or even mental condition. That doesn't define a good girl. Her character defines who she is and what she represents. Now she will try to even be one of the guys with her man and his friends. Even in cases of sexual orientation her girlfriend's needs. Lol So like I say...you will know when she's worthy of your time and when you need to dismiss her like a raggedy pair of old shoes.

A Bad Girl...she smokes, she drinks consistently, she takes advantage of your money and uses it to the 10th power, she insults your family, your friends, your whole being, your religion, your personality, she curses in front of your family. She publicly humiliates you, she doesn't make time for you at all, She cheats on you. She doesn't consider your needs or anything you may want to do at all. She's disrespectful, intolerable, and she dresses provocatively. In a way that goes from sexy to skank. She doesn't want to be around your loved ones just you most of the time. That shows you she is needy and clingy. A bad girl also she can give you signs in about five minutes. She'll take what she wants immediately. She will date someone who is in your inner circle like your best friends in a heartbeat. She takes advantage of your genuineness she will use it every chance she gets. A bad girl there are so many ways to describe her but I believe my beloved readers get my drift. There's a thin line between sexy/skank...conservative/provocative woman. All these traits can affect your relationships and hopefully I hope they will help you to distinguish the two a little better than what you actually want. Maybe you may be one of them yourself. You never know. It's never to late to change. Watch out for them Bad Boys , Good Girls, Bad Girls, and Good Guys. They exist truly.

"US CENSUS 2010'' FORM: Not as innocent as it seems.

It kind of occurred to me yesterday that maybe when it comes to something you are not supposed to see. Then you really should not see it for a reason.

I am referring to the US Census 2010 form for all the Americans in our country every new decade we have to fill out the 15-20 question form and answer the questions so our government can see the changes they need to make on the population of our country and the many different changes that we have to deal with as well. A friend of mind mentioned racial profiling to me. The truth is after seeing the form. There is truth in my friend's comment. I believe that is right actually. They classify you of course based on race. White/Anglo-Saxon, African American/Black/Negro! (now), Hispanic (Non-White), Asian American, Pacific Islander, Indian-American, Native American (vast difference), Biracial, now Multiracial. Now I love that our country is so diverse believe me. I live in one of the most diverse neighborhoods, attend college in the city of one of the most diverse states, New York. I also for years since I was age 9 or 10 had friends from all walks of life and backgrounds. I have never had any problem with that at all. I accept it and embrace that as well. This is what makes me Chloe Jewel Riccardo. Now first of all I have to say this US Census form should have been double checked for typos and errors twice by the secretaries or whoever typed it up. Also mind you did President Obama or Vice -President Joe Biden see this? Did Michelle see this? Did the kids see this? What is going on? Have we really not evolved now? We are supposed to it is 2010 and we are in the second decade of the twenty-first century. Why are people still fascinated with the idea that you have to put down Negro for African Americans . I don't believe in this at all when it comes to my race I am sorry honey but I am not a Negro. I am the sixth or seventh-generation born here in America of my family. I am not a Negro and I do not consider myself that. I may use the word for reference because I do not want to be called anything differently. That's not where I am at all. I should not be referred to that. My people should the community should not be referred to that. Do not make me take a ride down to DC to protest against this because I will. Believe me I will walk down to 1600 Pennsylvania Avenue and protest against this little form. It is disrespectful because mind you Mr. Obama is biracial. How can you let this slip up!?! I voted for you in 2008 how can you let that happened. If he did not see it well hopefully the people in his oval office will let him. Make a change and leave as on the US Census 2010 form change immediately. You guys are talking about moving forward...how about make some changes damn it! I am sorry but its not acceptable to me. It's almost disgraceful and ridiculous actually. That's pathetic. US CENSUS 2010 form you need to change sorry. Maybe it was good that my mother filled you out instead of me. I would've attached a letter along with it.

New Reality Television Shows debuting on VH-1

New Reality Television shows are making their debut across the airwaves on VH-1. Rozonda "Chilli" Thomas from pop/r&b Grammy /Amercian Award winning group 1990s "TLC" has made her debut with a reality television show this spring. Chilli of course who was with the multitalented and handsome, Usher Raymond several years ago is looking for love on her show. She is getting the help from a female counterpart actually who is giving her opinion on who would be best to complete and keep up with the superstar. "What Chilli Wants" is bound to be exciting, funny, dramatic, and hilarious. A show like this is actually beneficial for females especially now. This is like the female version of the bachelorette or "For the Love of Ray J". This is a show that will give women and men the opportunity to take a look at what a woman who doesn't have bad habits but healthy ones can find the king in her castle. I honestly don't think Chilli would have a hard time finding a man. C'mon everyone you know she was the sexy one in TLC let's not forget that, Left-Eye may she rest in peace was the "crazy" one, T-Boz the cool one and we all know Chilli was the sexy,spicy one. So let's be real. I am glad to see that a lot of 90's pop and R&B stars are crossing over into the reality television. It gives them a chance to shine and get their names back out there again. It makes me wonder will Chilli or T-Boz get back in the studio? Could there be a reunion? We shall see...will there be another album again not since there last TLC album, 3D will they come back out again? I hope so I grew up with them and love their music. So to see Chilli in the spotlight this makes me happy to see VH-1 producers, writers, and owners giving her a chance. Good luck Chilli! I hope the last episode she will find the one.

Now another pop diva, who is making her debut is Brandy...another favorite of mine I would sing "The Boy is Mine" until i was blue in the face. Lolz So to see Brandy & Ray J back again with their show "A Family Business" come on this is too good not to miss. Their parents have pretty much managed their whole careers. So this show is bound to give all its viewers the inside look to what its like behind the scenes of putting together two of the biggest R&B stars together. Brandy who had success since the age of 15 has been featured all over. From her first album to the last one in 2008, Human. It's good to see the success of their careers taking over and getting their names back out there as well. Along with Ray J who has had major success with "For the Love of Ray J", "Sexy Ladies", "Sexy Can I", "One Wish", etc. The show is guaranteed to show you how to make two pop stars 101.

The last show with another pop diva, is Jessica Simpson who we all know from "Newlyweds" reality television show back in 2002, with her ex-husband and 98 degrees singer, Nick Lachey. Jessica is on her own with this one traveling around the world to get the message of what is truly beauty on, "The Price of Beauty". I am glad to see her spreading a positive message of one that is essential in this time. People need to know what beauty is from all perspectives. I am glad to see her taking the time out of her very busy hectic schedule to promote this to tweens, teenagers, young women, and all women from all walks of life, race, and experience. So everyone check out "Brandy & Ray J Norwood: A Family Business", "What Chilli Wants", and "The Price of Beauty".

Spring 2010 films: "Our Family Wedding" review

"OUR FAMILY WEDDING" SPRING 2010 FILMS WITH CHLOE RICCARDO "HONEY DIP 201"

So many great movies are coming out this spring this year. I am going to be doing reviews on them. My first one which I give five stars as well. =)

"Our Family Wedding" is a romantic comedy that will probably be around for ages to come. Our Family Wedding is about Lance Gross (Marcus) and America Ferrera (Lucia). The story has a introduction almost similar to Romeo & Juliet in a way. Their fathers clash and then they instantly dislike each other. As time progresses throughout the film you see Forest Whitaker and Carlos Mencia's bond between their character gets stronger as well as the way their children's relationship gets stronger as well. Both men get a chance to reflect on a way and pay attention to their relationships at home and personally too. "Our Family Wedding" is a laugh out loud, foot stomping comedy. It shows that even despite obstacles that may come throughtout relationships, racial tensions,and two families intertwined throughout their relationship. You find the meaning of true love and making love work throughout anything. "Our Family Wedding" is a great date film and you should take anyone who has a love of comedy to see the film. Charlie Murphy's role is hilarious! and as well as a lot of mishaps throughout the movie. I enjoyed it and I recommend you see it now "Our Family Wedding" starring Lance Gross from "Tyler Perry's House of Paynes", America Ferrera from "Real Women Have Curves", "Ugly Betty", and "The Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants". A long with movie veterans Regina King and Forest Whitaker. Also up and coming comedian and actor Carlos Mencia. In theaters now go see it with your family.

Usher's New Album Raymond vs. Raymond

Usher is back!!!! Yes the R&B singer, entrepreneur, dancer,songwriter, Usher Raymond has been in the game about 15 years now and he is back. His album "Raymond vs. Raymond"has made its new debut on March 27, 2010. He is ready to go on to the next chapter of his life and singing songs that reflect the past 6 years since "Confessions" which debuted in March of 2004. I remember very well because I have the albums both editions at home. "Raymond vs. Raymond" reflects the 31-year-olds new life now since he is evolving into a man. The albums is supposed to relect the different sides of his personality. The dark side and the good side of his personality. Already making airwaves "Daddy's Home" is constantly in rotation on the airwaves on pop and R&B radio stations. "OMG"featuring Will. I. Am the pop single he debuted last night, Wednesday on American Idol with a hot performance with Will.i.am. from The Black Eyed Peas. The song is about his feelings for a young lady and how she makes him feel blown away and saying like the text phrase "Oh my god!". This album he's going to do it again. He is about to crossover even more into a more pop direction. He has already done it with "Yeah" featuring Ludacris & Lil'Jon from Confessions now he is going to blow the minds away crossing even more into younger demographics. Usher and his management team really know what they're doing with this one. You can get him for all the R&B fans, you can get him for the pop fans, you can get him in the dance and night clubs as well. He is ready and he's back again. If you do not have it yet download it on Itunes.com, Buy at your local mom & pop shop, or Target always has great prices, FYE has really good prices too when you look for the sales. He has really grown even more as an artist and man. He has been through it all becoming a husband in the past, a father with two adorable little boys, and maturity reflects a lot. I am glad and looking forward to seeing more. He's back now and better than ever pick up your copy today or listen on your ipods, or on the computer.

Chloe's going to have a Love/Relationship Show

I am working at a company that involves broadcast internet shows. Of course naturally the Media Studies major that I am I want to do my own show. Now to be perfectly honest with you. I did not want to get into broadcast journalism. My intention was to be strictly print and that was it. I was a little bashful about it. But let me be real with you my parents have been taping me since I was a child. How can I not love the camera? Come on now. I even had a videocamera I received too from my stepdad lol. But now I am gonna have to buy my own lolz. Anyway back to the part of me wanting my own show. I have a feeling that something is about to happen if I play my cards right and I work hard maybe I will actually end up with my own show. Or let's just say amateur show for now. I am not a pro but I know I can do this definitely.

I am open to all things in the media: music, print, broadcast, blogging, or whatever is in the media field. I have always been interested since I was a kid probably. Something happened where I knew this was going to be the field that was made for me to get into for my adult life.

But now I know which direction I want to go into. I want to do a webshow on relationships and advice for people. I would love to do this because I will be gaining knowledge in the process as well. I am 23 and yes I am single. Lolz. So while I am a single lady for now. I will be teaming up with three or four other twenty-somethings, thirty-somethings, and maybe even forty-somethings. I want their experience, their stories, their love lifes out there. Not publicly. No names will be disclosed. We will keep everything anonymous it will only be i used to date...this guy, man, dude, boy...i used to date this woman,girl,chick, or whatever term. We will not disclose personal names because the advice is coming from our lives. I do not want to put anyone on the spot who does not want the spotlight at all. If you do and are comfortable with it. It is your call and your name I will mention. For now I will have privacy strictly for everyone who i have dated, met, and who I will meet in the future. I will probably be using nicknames actually so they do have a title at least. My show is going to feature advice for you guys. Also provided by information from books, television shows, family, friends, the public, magazines, newspapers, life in general, and any other aspect of society I can use. I am not sure what the title will be yet. Maybe "Double Dip of Love" or "The Love Doctors come to your rescue". Something catchy and fun but for now. I am interested and this will be happening soon. =)

Childhood and Growing Up in the 1990s

I am feeling a little nostalgic right now. Very nostalgic...I miss when I was a little girl actually. I really do realize how much of being a kid I miss. I have been around a lot of children lately and I was just reminiscing on how it used to be. It went by very quickly. I remember bits of pieces of my childhood happy memories and some that taught me the biggest lessons of my life so far.

TWO OF THE DOLLS MY MOTHER GAVE ME AS A CHILD FOR CHRISTMAS =)>I can truly say I had the best parents when i was a little girl. They treated me like a princess when I look back I remember nothing but really but just love. I was the Toys R Us kid. I definitely probably stayed in Toys R Us a lot back then. Even if I might have been upset or pissed off for anything. Or even if they disciplined me as well.... My parents were there for me every step of the way in one form of fashion. I came from two individuals who were very much in love and met in college. They had me nine years after their union came together. When they met their union defined the rest of their lives and the way things would be for the next generation which is me. Well things changed for me a lot actually. My parents separated when I was seven years old and divorced two years later. Throughout the years I did see my father and I lived with my mother and my life with her of course defined how everything would be from childhood to adolescence to adulthood.

Now I can look back my childhood in the 1990s was fun a lot of great experiences. I grew up during a time where racism, relationships,violence, the war, and everything would affect the generation at that time. I grew up during the time of George Bush the first. Not "Dub-Ya" lol his son, George W.Bush but the first. You know when Ross Perot and everyone was running  presidential office. I used to watch a lot of Nickelodeon on television. I went from being a Nickelodeon feen to an MTV addict lol. I watched "Rocko's Modern Life", "Rugrats", "Wild & Crazy Kids", "Clarissa explains it all", "Barney", of course Sesame Street, "Doug", "Double Dare", and all of the shows in the 1990s featured on Nickelodeon. I even watched "All That" and "Martin". Yes at a young age I watched "Martin", and "In Living Color". I watched a lot of programs that now as young adult I can understand them far better than as could as a child.

Growing up in the 1990s was a great time a lot of things happened that would define our generation and how things would be from there on for the next 20 years or so.

During my childhood I played with barbies, of course and I wanted a bright pink Barbie jeep. I loved "Beauty & the Beast", and all of the disney characters. I played a lot of Board games and one game I played was Jumanji. One of my favorite movies was "Harriet the Spy" and "Matilda". My stepsister and I would act like Harriet and spy on people LMAO!!!!. I went to my very first sleepover when I was about seven. My mother allowed me to have sleepovers too when I got older too. I had a ninth birthday party at Discovery Zone. I had a lot of parties up until now at age 23. So my childhood in the 1990s was fun. I can't describe anything else better i went to concerts at an early age. I was surrounded around music. I met my first celebrity when I was about 10 years old. I went to summer camp, I was a girl scout for "The Cadets", I went on my first plane trip at age seven to visit my great-grandmother and I began to travel on planes independently on, trains, and more. I had a sweet sixteen birthday party. That's before all the Sweet 16s on MTV became really large and successful. I spent my childhood in my mother's hometown St.Louis and I would visit my grandmother while she lived in Brooklyn. My grandmothers now who i adore I still visit whenever I have the chance now. I am very happy to say thank you to my parents. I love you guys. I am glad to have had been a child of the 1990s. So I can truly say my childhood was blessed. No matter what good times or bad I had a great childhood and teenhood.

I dedicate this blog post to my parents and a very special man who has been there for me as well. I love you guys so much. I guess because my graduation is coming up this year. I am just glad I had a chance to write this. Thanks for everything. I love you guys so much. =)