"Changing the image of male entertainers in the media and entertainment industry""

I really have seen a huge change in my favorite artists over the years I know they're people like us just getting by but when you see how they are projecting one image in public and another in private you see something completely different. There's an issue that needs to by addressed.

What happened to our favorite entertainers who sing about love and promote uplifting women in their music? They’re becoming hypocritical with projecting one image when now everything is being unleashed and coming out on the forefront. You all know that old saying “Actions speak louder than words”. Apparently our favorite performers in the pop, R&B, soul, hip hop music industries are now being targeted for making cruel actions against the women who they claim are their “ride or die”, “my main chick”, “my wifey or wife”. It has been on my mind a lot lately cause I guess when you are growing up listening to these artists music it becomes engrained in who you are. Their music grows along with you as you’re growing up too. I remember as a kid seeing my favorite male groups or solo artists on television singing he’s pouring his heart out to this young lady in the video. He is trying to win her heart and he admires her beauty, her personality, and who she is to him. He suggests in his lyrics he wants to take her away to far away places and romance, enchant her and it all sounds like a beautiful fairy tale. He suggests he would do anything to make her happy and he adores her . Except behind closed doors the singer, rapper, or artist is actually just the opposite of what he is projecting in his lyrics.

He is damaging a masterpiece a beautiful piece of artwork. Or in the case of violence being done to the man and woman. You realize that they are attacking one another in their relationship. When did it become more acceptable for society for women and men to see this as the norm? It has been happening for generations and centuries of time. I understand that but it’s never something we should find acceptable and comfortable at all.

As a writer, aspiring journalist, or maybe possible publicist I know how the media works and how important every single’s artist valuable reputation is precious because if you have a poor image and you are okay with defacing women. You better believe that the music and record sales will start to decline, endorsements will be lost, movie scripts cancelled, and your reputation is destroyed. You may end up becoming blacklisted and black balled in the recording industry where you decide you want to throw temper tantrums against females. You better believe that everything you built will come crashing down.

If you do not focus on the positive image, the reputation of yourself. You are human first, yes you are a person still growing and evolving. Yet it’s no excuse to repeatedly put your hands on a woman or anyone of that matter.

Some of you may realize I am not listing names I shouldn’t have to because you already know whom I am talking about. They know who they are and they’re the ones who will have to face consequences when they realize their career is at stake. About 90 percent of women buy R&B, Rap, Soul, Pop, Rock, and Hip Hop albums. If you continue to mistreat your girlfriend, fiancé, wife, or children for that matter disrespectfully. You are going to see that not only is your career, your reputation, your brand, and life on the line. You are will also see there may not be any come back in the future for that matter.

These men need counseling, therapy, and help they need to find a way to deal with their issues. It’s crazy to me how you have a whole entourage of people: your publicist, your manager, your family, friends old and new, and other people on the tour and road with you. At your video screen sessions, at the album listening parties, the award shows, and so on. You don’t realize you are spiraling out of control and do not seek help. Counseling and therapy was made for a reason for people like this who are clearly dealing with issues they need to address. It is sad to me that people who grew up around this behavior they didn’t have a choice at all. They didn’t realize that going to the ultimate source God, going to people to help them through these situations was going to make them a better recording artist and person.

We need to change the way our males see women as not just beautiful creatures to add aesthetics to your video. You need to deal with the fact that they are much more than that. They are there because you are selling an image to the public. At the same time if you are putting your hands on the woman who you love in a loving and affectionate way. The special woman in your life who is giving you her full support and attention you need to give her the same in return. You may need to reevaluate your life and who you really are too.

This issue has been on my mind a lot lately and the more public attention I see. The more news stories that are being sensationalized and glamorized by the media the more unnecessary press singers and artist are receiving. Is this the direction we are heading to get our clients to receive more press drama. Drama that can potentially put someone in the hospital or worse? A recording artist in the past never had to subject themselves to this kind of humiliation. The King of Pop and King of Rock & Roll never had to humiliate and embarrass themselves at this notion to get attention. They didn't destruct against others maliciously or purposely. The both of them worked on their craft and if they were ever targeted it was because of another person's accusations. 

 I was watching OWN’s “Greenleaf” just a few days ago and there is an episode where one of the younger characters is being abused by her boyfriend they are teenagers about 17 on the show. It came up to me and I realized that there was something here 

that this television show really wanted to address. It really is a great show because I love the fact they deal with different issues that are often “swept under the rug”. I have seen people personally in my life that were manipulated, controlled, and verbally abused. It’s one thing and bad enough you want to use words against each other to insult the other person. It is a whole other issue to put your hands on someone.  Then here comes real life I hate to see our favorite artists actually condone and find this behavior acceptable. When did this become ok? Why do musicians, rappers, and other entertainers want to shoot themselves in the foot literally? You are damaging yourself in the end. How do we find a way to answer a cry for help?

Women we can guard our emotions, you hide through clothing, hide behind hats, sunglasses, and clothing. Yet at the same time you are covering up physical and emotional scars that can be addressed. Why is it when it becomes public it is too late?

I am not trying to tear down anyone I am trying to uplift these people because I want to see these people thrive, become better versions of themselves, there is so much work to be done in society, so many things we can do in our world, repair fix it, heal it, and make it much better. Why are people looking to hurt those we love including ourselves? How do we change their image so viewers of television, the Internet, social media, listeners on the radio, can see a better versions of women and men within our communities. We need to change our male and female entertainers to not just become entertainers but to heal themselves personally too.

For more information if you know someone who is dealing with any issue I hope you all contact the domestic violence hotline, seek counseling, and look for more information on http://www.purplepursecharm.com Dedicate this song "Warrior" by the woman with the "Voice of Gold", Demi Lovato from her "Tell me you love me" album  to all of the women and men who may be facing or dealing with these kind of situations too. All the best praying for you all too =) with love besos, bacios, and kisses from me to all of my readers =)