Monday, July 29, 2013

Some men to avoid when you go clubbing

Stick with your girls the whole night always safety in numbers
All right ladies I went out a couple weeks ago for a very fun night for Soulful Songbird's (Anyone who's read my blog for the last couple of years knows who "Soulful Songbird" is and if you know me well you know who he is and why I protect him). It was his birthday party he had at a club just happened to be Timbaland vs Neptunes night. I arrived with my girlfriends we stayed inside for a bit and then I decided to go outside. I saw some people who know him very well of course. He makes his grand amazing entrance. It had been a while since I had seen him and we don't get a chance to see each other often.
 So I see him and of course everything in the world is all right again. He touched my hand, looked at me, was surprised, and I am happy the night went pretty good, I got to dance with him,  my feet were killing me in my 4 inch black suede strappy-sandal wedge pumps, my black/mint green dress with the mesh front, and I got to dance with him of course now in this situation every female should be happy when you're dancing with the man of your dreams, and everything is going great. 
Always stay with your girls =)
That's the perfect situation...but sometimes going to clubs aren't always the "ideal night" and this happened to me too when you're out clubbing and dancing then you have a couple awkward situations happen but luckily I have learned how to deal with it over the years. I have been going to clubs now since I was 18 actually. 
You are out dancing and then you get the man who just randomly grabs you and then you wind up dancing with him cause you want to avoid a fight right. But then he opens his mouth and then he breathes to ask you what your name is and he has dragon breath. 

Ladies when this happens always keep breath mints, gum, or Listerine strips in your purse, clutch, or wallet, because no lady wants to ever speak to a man and still try to talk and make conversation with him. You need to leave and grab your girls right away. Now because the party we were at was so loud I would recommend ahead of time to either text your friend or have a special code word like "Code D" so you can get this man away from you right away. Now some of you may think this is silly but honestly a lot of ladies get into situations like this and you need your girls to support you and have your back. 

Okay next situation....your dancing with a guy and he decides that he wants to act like a little chihuahua   and capture you like you're an antelope in a lions mouth. That's when you know for sure Code D means get out of this situation immediately because you need to get out of there right away. He is going to be torturing you the whole night. Avoid and nip right in the bud immediately. 

The next man who thinks he can buy you drinks all night long and he thinks you owe him a dance and your phone number. Now for this situation can come a  few positive results but when you are stuck and you need to get out of this situation use Code D right away. He may not be your type too aggressive, not just what you are interested in at all. I need help get me out of here because you are seriously bugging me and I don't want you thinking I am going to go home with you or call you because you bought me and my girls drinks all night long. Now only use the code word unless you are attracted to this generous man buying you and your girls drinks. Never go home with the man you met at the bar unless you know him and you trust him. I have learned that lesson well he actually ended up dating me later so that was my advantage but usually if you have just met don't go home alone with the man.

The last man you want to avoid of course is the one who decides to sneak stuff and put in ladies drinks when you are so distracted, partying, and having a great time. Then he wants to drop stuff in your drink, hold on to your drink, if anything doesn't seem right then leave the drink on the table and then get a brand new one. So keep this in mind and hopefully you'll have the "perfect situation" happen that night when you go clubbing dancing with someone you actually have feelings for and enjoy.  
Most of all have a great time! Be safe

Monday, July 15, 2013

What are we teaching the next generation-Trayvon's story

I love when I get a chance to show readers there's more to me than just talking about fun television shows, movies, relationships, or whatever else is going on inside "Honey Brown Sugar's world" I love when I get a chance to showcase what I am really about and what means the most to me is when a story like this falls into my lap and I get to share my opinions about the case. I am talking about the Trayvon Benjamin Martin story (1995-2012). He was killed after being shot through the chest on a rainy night on February 26, 2012 in Sanford, Florida. 


 

Trayvon’s Story
I have not had a chance to write about his case. It definitely touched my heart especially on a personal level. I have not expressed how I have been making sure I stayed tuned in to this case there’s something about a trial for some reason that always makes me eager to learn more especially in a case of this nature. You have an innocent 17-year-old out on a dark night. Then you have a neighborhood watcher who could have picked a better story than this then the almighty above right. It makes perfect sense. Now none of us were all there unless if you were right in that neighborhood to witness the tragedy that would lead to this case. It raises a lot of questions though is the court of Sanford, Florida taking everything seriously. I keep wondering because when you look and see the playback from all of the videos from the court, all of the testimonies, especially the one with Trayvon’s friend testifying on his behalf because she was one of the last people who heard his voice. It makes you see some of the stereotypes that people still put against each other. When will people ever look at a case and focus on the people. Obviously racism is somewhat still alive. This will always continue but it is up to the court to focus not on the race but one justice, focusing on the life that was taken, because look at bottom line. He was shot and killed, even if he put his hands on George Zimmerman he never took his life, if he pushed him down and scraped the back of his head, then that is fair, his wounds have healed, but now the focus of this case should be focused on the law, Florida’s law, and also just basic common sense. The man took someone’s life let’s forget about him being an African American teen. Lets focus on he killed someone and justice needs to prevail. If he was out on a late night mind you, remember one thing, he had no weapons on him, he had a packet of candy on him, which is harmless enough. I don’t think his intentions were to harm another person. I believe he wanted to defend himself but I don’t believe he wanted to do something that drastic. Again remember this was one kid out by himself, in the dark, minding his own business, his plan wasn’t to go on the attack. It would be a blessing if there was actual real footage of the event taking place that night.  Its kind of crazy that you have to go by memory of that night, when one person is unable to defend their case and story. You have to go by the defendant only who is being accused and charged, God I hope justice will be served for his family, and people will be wise, smart, and really make the best decision possible. This is one of those cases that will never go away it’s going to be part of history I believe for a long time.
One thing I will say he sparked, changed, and made a fashion statement become one of the most politically charged topics, his hoodie, often being mistaken for a thug or some common hoodlum. He actually was just wearing a piece of clothing to protect himself. I don’t believe this kid was a thug not because he just happens to be black but the signs all point to him being someone who knew what he was doing, was trying to achieve more for himself. He came from a two-parent home, grew up with both parents who obviously provided for him, and most of all loved him with their whole hearts. Something about the whole case does not feel right. I believe there’s more there’s a reason Zimmerman does not want to testify. If he did he would blow his cover I believe. Maybe he doesn’t want to go up and be put in the spotlight. Maybe he’s scared but what it comes down to he doesn’t want to blow up his spot though.
I wrote the first part one day before they announced the verdict live around the world on television major networks. Now I can really express and say how I feel I along with the rest of the world found out about his story on the news and from a relative who lives in the “Stand Your Ground” state. I heard the story and immediately thought to myself I am going to invest into it. I wore my hoodie proudly a pink hoodie days afterward, I signed the petition posted on change.org, and now I am ready to tell you that believe me this kid did not deserve to be shot at all. I see his image, he could have been my little brother, he could be my cousin, my next door neighbor, my co-worker’s son, my boyfriend,  or even my son. I see his face I see my father, my brother, my cousin, my uncles, all of the men who are or were apart of my life and it hits you.
 I look and see a future now where young men have to still live in a world where they are not valued, appreciated, or even respected for being successful, for just being a typical teenager. I see him and think about his parents, his family, the lives he touched, the potential he had and where he would have gone, and I feel for their family. Now how do we change our system to see black and brown men and women as people. We need to remind them over and over again we are valuable in this country, we work just as hard to be successful, and to have lives that are lived to pursue and to be happy. How can you live in a world who still does not honor the value of life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness. We still don’t value the constitution, the bill of rights, everything goes out of the window when it comes to a story like this. We need a judicial system who believes in valuing a human life. He walked, spoke, ate, he saw,  he listened, he felt, and he was a human being. He was intelligent probably on his way to a bright future going to college possibly breaking more barriers for an African American young man. Now how do we get you to see he didn’t deserve to be shot in the heart period point blank. 

It doesn’t matter if Zimmerman was a neighborhood watcher, he obviously was looking out for himself by having a weapon, and he didn’t consider the nature of what he was doing, and he didn’t consider the life he destroyed as well.  
Now let's go back to basic grammar school and high school remember this?...Reconsider everything put everything into perspective now. Now if you read the definitions below and just remind yourself of what they all mean, now think about Trayvon's case, and keep an open mind to everything, and remember he was a human being, on planet Earth, living in America, where he was supposed to be free to live, breathe, and walk down the street.  
From the U.S. Constitution (The first portion of the Preamble)
We the people of the United States, in order to form a more perfect union, establish justice, insure domestic tranquility, provide for the common defense, promote the general welfare, and secure the blessings of liberty to ourselves and our posterity, do ordain and establish this Constitution for the United States of America.

(From the Second Amendment "The Right to Bare Arms"
Pointing out that interest in the “character of the Second Amendment right has recently burgeoned,” Justice Thomas, concurring in the Court’s invalidation (on other grounds) of the Brady Handgun Violence Prevention Act, questioned whether the Second Amendment bars federal regulation of gun sales, and suggested that the Court might determine “at some future date . . . whether Justice Story was correct . . . that the right to bear arms ‘has justly been considered, as the palladium of the liberties of a republic.’ ” 1
Remember this....=)





Remember this keep this all in mind because at the end of the day this is what it really should matter in the end. 

Noun
      Freedom-The power or right to act, speak, or think as one wants without hindrance or restraint.
      Absence of subjection to foreign domination or despotic government.



I am just saying re-read it and remember every young man needs to be judged by his actions not based on how he dresses, he never committed a crime, or an act. He minded his own business. Remember that. 







Sunday, July 7, 2013

"Devious Maids" New Series Heats Up Airwaves

Devious Maids produced by Eva Longoria and Marc Cherry both part of the hit serious six season cast of Desperate Housewives is what has been making headlines across the television series and is guaranteed to women very happy with this dramatic, funny, comedic series. It is just as wickedly funny as the characters on Desperate Housewives but it has more of a serious and complex tone to the television show. The episodes can be a bit shocking but keep their viewer intrigued, and wanting to know what's next. 
With all of these new shows making their way it is guaranteed to make everyone watch on Sunday


nights. 
Devious Maids stars an all-star cast, Susan Lucci, (All My Children, Dallas, Dancing with the Stars), Roselyn Sanchez (Rush Hour 2, Act of Valor,  The Game Plan, and Boat Trip), Dania Ramirez , (X-Men, She Hate Me, Fat Albert, and American Reunion ), Ana Ortiz (Ugly Betty, Big Momma's House, Little Girl Lost   ), Judy Reyes (Scrubs, Little Girl Lost, End of the Road) , Brianna Brown (General Hospital, Knocked Up, The 40-Year Old Virgin, Spider Man 2), Mariana Klaveno (While Children Sleep, HBO's True Blood), Grant Show (Melrose Place, Accidentally on Purpose,Swingtown, The Possession). 

The pilot episode stunned me and right away I loved it especially with the introduction of the series. I cannot wait until the next one. With the way the very first maid was killed off on the show, you knew it was another hit leaving everyone wanting a lot more. Make sure you tune in to the show and support it.  Devious Maids airs on LMN (Lifetime Movie Network). It airs on Sunday nights at 10p.m. EST. 
Also visit the website for more information on local listings to watch the show at http://www.mylifetime.com

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