Saturday, August 27, 2022

Happy Birthday Bloomingdales! 150th years of being fashionable, fabulous, and fierce

 





My New York City you know I love you. You have seen me grown from baby to girl to teenager to adult under many sunsets, sunrises, and moons. So I could not ignore one of my favorite NYC stores celebrating its 150th birthday and anniversary this year in 2022. I had to be about 10 years old when I officially discovered Macy’s one of the brands connected to Bloomingdales the Herald Square flagship store on 34th street and Bloomingdales department stores. Two household New York City staples that have stood the test of time for a century and a half. They evolve and update with the current year and times. I never thought I would be able to be a part of both stores. I walked in with my mom one day I vividly remember this was fall 1997 and she’s telling me “Go get what you need” and look around the store. I came across a Tommy Hilfiger red, white, and blue comforter in the Macy’s bedding department. I remember this moment because it was a lesson in life on value, worth, and knowing what you’re worth. At first, I remember telling my mom, “It’s too expensive I will get something else”. I felt horrible, badly because it was a named brand item. I told her “No this is too much maybe we should go somewhere else.” My mom took it and we walked out of the store. She bought it for me anyway and I proudly put it on my twin size mattress at home in my new room. I can’t remember what happened to the bedspread it’s been over two decades but I always remember the lesson. Sometimes in life we deserve to treat ourselves, especially our children, never short-change yourself or your children. Your children are worth every single moment of time, every gift you can afford to give them, and they’re your most valuable assets. Also know that you’re 100 percent worth every cent of that item if you can afford it. She taught me early while going down the streets of Fifth Avenue you see Versace, Chanel, Dior, Yves Saint Laurent, and Gucci. “Chloe, do not be afraid to ever go into these department stores.” I think she wanted to teach me early do not feel inferior or intimidated. You walk in there proudly and you show them you can afford the item and that you bought it. I think it was a lesson I still carry with me it’s not about materialism it's about your child developing a sense of pride, confidence, and integrity. You will not feel inferior about anything whether you can afford it you can go and browse. Do not feel scared to go into high end stores even if you cannot buy the item that day. Maybe you’re learning a sense of style, class, fashion, or you want to see something beautiful too. It taught me it does not matter if its high end you can still obtain it one day. So when I passed by a Bloomingdales store one day I was a teenager at this point and went inside with my mom it felt like this amazing a whole different world the moment I arrived. I remember such positive experiences because she took me to check out the MAC Cosmetics lipsticks. Back then MAC had been around close to over a decade and they were crushing sales and booming. 

I remember seeing Bloomingdales a few times thinking I want to work there. I fell in love with fashion, clothing, reading Vogue, In Style, Elle magazines wanting to emulate everyone’s evening wear and personal style. I knew I am going to work there one day. Well life had a few fun curveballs in the work department for me so I couldn’t be a part of the Bloomingdales family until I earned my stripes it took a long time to get there. Fall 2014 I signed with Macy’s one day after my 28th birthday and started at their Flushing Queens downtown store in Chinatown. Then fast forward after more administrative jobs and opportunities Fall 2018 I walked in Bloomingdales and asked for a job finally earning a sales associate job in their Christmas Trim section with the other holiday sales team. I loved it and it was a true blessing. Bloomingdale’s is magical their visual department the creativity is out of this world. They are mind blowing with every year a new display, another theme, another new way to wear fashion trends. All their stores captivate you, transform you, and you escape your reality. I have seen contortionist doing ballet and acrobatics at their stores, Gorgeous displays for the Chinese New Year, a life-sized gingerbread house, a life-size snow globe where I can take pictures. I have photos too and it’s amazing true unbelievable experiences. I am so glad I had 8 years with Macy’s, 2 years working for Bloomingdales, and I am still apart of the Macy’s/Bloomingdales family I felt and still feel honored for that experience. 


Every evening gown, bathing suit, studded, feather shoe, glitzy shoe I was staring at, every time I stopped at 40 Carrots the yogurt store within their travel luxury luggage department, or bought a little piece home with me I felt proud. Dreams come true even if you just wanted to be a part of New York City history. It's a blessing, the right time, place, and people can open doors for you. The talented fashion designers, artists, entertainers, models, and everyone who have graced a cover wearing a purchase from Bloomingdales. The countless entertainers, artists, designers who have appeared at the store. They have all witnessed a piece of history. Congratulations! to Bloomingdales on 150 years of phenomenal, fabulous fashion! 

Follow Bloomingdales on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Tik Tok, and come out in September on the 9th watch at home if you can't be here in person or come see us for the 150th Anniversary congratulations to every store around the country. 






This particular location was made and built in 1930 by 59th and Lexington Avenue just wanted to put a little more history in about the building. I know a few secrets but can't tell you everything lol. 

Me in front of the store and my job (still a part of the Bloomingdales & Macy's family) more pictures coming soon. Congratulations Bloomingdales! See you  all at the party & celebration


Nicki Minaj will receive the 2022 MTV Video Music Vanguard Award this year at the MTV VMAs!

Congratulations to multiplatinum international artist,  Onika Tanya Maraj-Petty aka "Nicki Minaj" is the 2022 Video Vanguard MTV recipient this year. 

 

 






 
 Nicki Minaj arrived on the scene in 2007 when fellow hip-hop artist, producer, and Young Money founder/owner, Dwayne Michael “Lil Wayne” Carter, Jr. discovered her and she became the first lady of Young Money Records. Nicki released mixtapes during this time period but it was her first appearance with Ludacris on “My Chick Bad” in 2009 which caught MTV’s attention and her billions of fans worldwide. Nicki is an artist of our time truly a woman of this generation. She knows her own mind, her purpose, and her destiny. She’s not afraid to let you know I worked hard for this day and night inside the studio writing out rhymes, studying her craft, studying the arts, musicals, movies, entertainment, coming up with original characters for her first album. She sacrificed her time, her energy, even being away from her family and friends of Saint James Trinidad & Tobago and South Jamaica Queens, New York to become one of the baddest, most influential, and international hip-hop female artists of this generation and 21st century. Her capabilities include her style of rapping it’s not mixing, measuring, and putting words together to rhyme, Nicki transforms with different alter-egos with her image, her syncopated fast way of rapping, and switches up her pitch, tone, and vocal ability. 
She changes into a more coquettish, sweet, vulnerable side in her songs like “You see right thru me”, “Your Love”, “By My Side” ft. Chris Brown she’s rapping on songs when she turns into a beast. She shows her vulnerability in her lyrics in songs like “Pills N Potions” from her “Pinkprint” 2014 album ,”Bed of Lies” they show the side of her when her personal relationships and her real-life experiences. You have different facets of Nicki then you get the fun, fabulous, pop party girl Nicki songs “Starships”, “The Night is still young”, “Bang Bang” hit song ft Ariana Grande and Jessie J, “Side to Side” her collaboration with Ariana Grande. Ariana and Nicki have collaborated on a few of her hit songs in the 2010s. Nicki has shown her audience she’s capable of collaborating with anyone in her music. She’s recorded with pop international divas, Mariah Carey, Beyonce, Rihanna, she’s collaborated with hip hop artists, EDM producers like David Guetta, dance producers, and the list continues to expand and grow.

 She never forgets her Young Money Family and Team they will pair up in the recording studio in a minute to pump out a number one hit or hits on the Billboard Music Charts. Nicki has consistently for the last 15 years has stayed on the Top 40 list. Most recently she just hit number one this week in August for her release “Very Freaky Girl” a song featuring a sample of the hit maker, the late great, Rick James’s 1980s hit, “Superfreak”. Nicki again knows how to connect to her all of audience and what will grab and captivate their attention time and time again. She has also dabbled into acting she was featured in the movie “Barbershop 3” with Ice Cube, Common, Eve, Regina Hall, Cedric the Entertainer, and a whole ensemble cast. She showed off her acting comedic chops and with her debut in “The Other Woman” with Cameron Diaz and Leslie Mann. You can see Nicki’s versatility her education and performance art skills from LaGuardia Performing Arts, plus her
 

















 

 
 









natural charisma, talent, and fiery personality is what has made her become the rightful star she so deserves to be in the entertainment and especially the music industry. Congratulations to Nicki Minaj, Young Money too for finding an incredible artist, and all of those who have collaborated with this Trinidadian Queen from Queens. 

She’s about to go to a whole different level now as an artist. Some Facts and Stats about Nicki for the last decade between (2009-2019) Nicki Minaj has won Billboard Music Awards for best rap album, rap artist, rap song, new artist in 2011, streaming song artists in 2012 in Canada she went 2x platinum, Denmark 10,000, Poland 10,000, Sweden, 10000, United Kingdom, 100,000, and in the United States alone she has 34.5 million certified digital singles, 3 compilation albums, 4 studio albums, 9 Grammy Awards including New Artist, Best Rap Duo or Group, Rap Song, and Album. Not bad for a woman who is still in her 30s and just became a wife and mother to a baby boy 2 years ago. Nicki shows us all you can have it all. You just have to be willing to sacrifice yourself, your dream, and just truly be yourself along the way. Congratulations Queen Nicki you so deserve this and excited to see what’s next on the horizon with the new album, new singles, videos, and more. Visit for tour dates, news, and more information at http://www.nickiminajofficial.com








Tuesday, July 12, 2022

"Get ready ladies to enjoy and finally have your "Hot Girl Summer" for 2022

























2019 I wasn’t ready I feel like I wasn’t quite there to have my hot girl summer, I had fun but I remember that year I was working and running like crazy actually I didn’t really have a chance to just say… “Ok let’s hit the pause button and just stop to vacay”. I was working 3 jobs actually and trying to make ends meet. I was on a roll actually. The following year we all shut down we were all on pause in 2020. 2021..things starting warming up I was back to working full time I took a small birthday/anniversary trip to celebrate my bestie and her husband’s anniversary and her daughter’s birthday too. We took an epic memorable trip to Magic Kingdom that was amazing, an experience I will cherish forever, and hope we all get a chance again. Now finally this time in 2022 I feel like I am on the brink of a hot girl summer. Your girl dropped about 15 pounds (April 2020-June 2022) (Pandemic Weight….10 more to go as the saying goes even during the pandemic God’s still not done with me yet. I feel honored to keep on fighting on Earth. Ya’ll seriously would’ve thought I had 2 kids already by now lol the way I was eating my mom’s homemade cookies, brownies, fried chicken, Macaroni & cheese, brussel sprouts, and my own cooking lol.) How did I do it….small portions, a nutritionist, walking, going back to the gym, taking the stairs. No special diet, or tricks. Just saying you can do it, you ate, enjoyed these meals, now it’s time to tone up that’s it. Do it for you no one else. I did it I thought about all of the beautiful days, celebrations, parties, concerts, festivals, beach days, and new men I would meet.

 I didn’t do it for them…I did it for me. I did it for my arthritis, I was diagnosed in January 2020 the same year we got hit with the pandemic, I realized that me losing the “pandemic weight” would help my bones, extra weight would add extra pressure to my bones, especially my knees and joints. So we focused on a nutritional diet, no specialties, just small portions, and maybe the occasional snack, I substituted “the bad sweets”: processed sweets, processed ice creams, donuts, and cookies (only the bad sweets for special occasions or a reward maybe once a month). I limited my intake. I tried to reward myself with “the good sweets”: yogurt, fruit, fruit snacks, chocolate milk, almonds, popcorn, protein snacks, Kind bars. 

 Then let’s say in my love life I dropped 500 pounds of “Man Weight” which is probably the total amount of pounds for the men I was dating in the past lol!!!! (I am single, I embrace it I am not looking back anymore) and ready to start fresh. I always get really excited when I am single, I am starting a new job soon because it means I am on a new path and journey. Maybe even possibly moving somewhere new finally. So I feel like for me this summer I can finally start fresh again. So to all of my single ladies, engaged ladies, married ladies, dating ladies, divorced ladies, moms, moms to be lol…this is for you. 

You ready let’s have a hot girl summer all of you beautiful “Mamacitas” deserve a “Hot Girl Summer” this year after the last 2 ½ years you deserve to just hit the pause button on everything and say. “Yes I am going to do something just for me and enjoy my time”. “How to have a hot girl summer” 1. Remember when you would take those amazing trips with your girlfriends or your friends would go to the beach, go on a road trip, go on vacation let’s say Cancun, Daytona Beach, Miami or wherever. Do not lose that side of you…go somewhere that sparks joy, happiness, a happy moment, it doesn’t matter if you were 5, 15, 25, you get what I mean. Go to a place that brings you joy it signals something in your brain to say. “Yes I remember what life was like when I came here…those were good times. Stay in that moment”. Salvage and treasure that moment and then recreate it with the people who you love who bring out the best in you, or if you want to go solo and have some peace and you time. Do that too. 


Even if I am home in NYC I can still have a hot girl summer here too. Or wherever I travel to lol. Have fun ladies. Enjoy!

I needed this day this was moment I knew..."Yeah it's time for a hot girl summer" LMAO!!!!! taken
June 25, 2022 in Coney Island-Brooklyn NY




I took a trip to Coney Island by myself and it actually did me some good. I ate Pina Colada gelato at “Coney’s Cones”, stuck my feet in the water at the beach, looked at all of the smiling faces, couples kissing in the ocean, and kids playing in the sand. That was all I needed it only cost me $5.50 for the trip, $7.00 for the ice cream, and then I treated myself to the movies. That’s all I needed was something happy, familiar, and enjoyable to take me back to a happier, less complicated time. Not only that but it just made me remember everything will pass. You will be even better this was a challenging time but you will come back. 2. Swimsuit-All of my social media models, divas, fashionistas, and people who just love shopping for a swimsuit. Every woman wants to feel like the Victoria’s Secret models or angels, their favorite celebrities on the beach when she steps foot on an island in the Caribbean to a local beach in her hometown, or pool. Every hot girl I say women should always go with their best attributes, what works for their shape too. If you are curvy, voluptuous, tall, petite, have a boy shape, pear shape, ruler shape, whatever shape that may be. Embrace it all your parents and everything God gave to you physically. Make it work for you the whole way. Here are a few fun websites that may help you look for a fabulous swimsuit for you. Here are 10 websites prices start between $10.00 and go all the way up to $250.00 most are on sale, you can also use Klarna.com, and others too for everyone who may be a babe or man on a budget. 10 Sites for Great Fun Fashionable, Affordable Swimsuits for Fashionistas:

 
1. Amazon.com     
2. Victoria’s Secret
3. Shein.com 
4. Cupshe.com 
5. ASOS.com 
6. Andrea Iyamah.com 
7. MatteCollection.com (Highly Recommend fits women of all shapes and sizes) 
8. Rosewe.com 
9. Chicme.com 
10. Flaxmaker.com 


 3. Put those shades on to block the rays! I highly recommend again  
Prive Revaux Victoria sunglasses comes in different shades visit priverevaux.com 
Guvivi Sunglasses 
 1. Jollyhola.com
 2. Amazon.com
 3. Raybans.com  
4. PriveRevaux.com 
 5. Grailed.com 
6. FashionRevolt.com 
7. Diffeyewear.com
 8. Sunglassspot.com 
9. Divaliciousjewelry.com 
10. Viccieyewear.com 


 4. Every hot girl needs a summer soundtrack Ladies please if you have a mobile device, a laptop, or any music streaming account. Create your favorite songs playlist when on the go, at a party, fun event to create positive vibes in your life. I have a few playlist on my Pandora account that gets me going for work, exercise, getting ready for a date, to have a fun night, wherever. It’s like you have your own life soundtrack no one can stop you. It’s yours and you can do whatever and play the songs (in good taste). For “the hot girls” I have a few songs that every woman should enjoy at the beach or wherever. 
 1. “Summertime” The Fresh Prince ft. DJ Jazzy Jeff 
2. “Body” by Megan Thee Stallion 
3. “Woman” by Doja Cat
 4. “Best Friend” by Doja Cat ft. Saweetie
5. “Attitude” by Leikeli 
 6. “It’s About Damn Time” by Lizzo 
7. “Juice” by Lizzo 
8. “Woman Up” by Megan Trainor 
9. “Work Bitch” by Britney Spears 
10. “Raising Hell by Kesha ft. Big Freedia 
 11. “I Like it Like that” by Cardi B ft Bad Bunny 
12. “Peaches” by Justin Bieber
 13. “Way 2 Sexy” Drake ft. Future 
 14. “Summer Love” Justin Timberlake 
15. “Feels” Katy Perry ft. Pharrell and Big Sean 
16. “One Kiss” Calvin Harris ft. Dua Lipa 
17. “Break My Soul” by Beyonce 
18. “Taki Taki” DJ Snake ft. Selena Gomez, Cardi B 
19. “Baddest” by Chris Brown and Yung Bleu 
20. “Watermelon Sugar” by Harry Styles 
2 Bonus Songs-"Pretty Girl Rock" by Keri Hilson
"Level Up" by Ciara 

 These are great fun songs for all of the hot girls when you’re with your friends tanning at the beach. 

 5. Hot Girls need Sunscreen Don’t burn at the Beach Sun Goddesses!!! Your skin is everything protects our muscles, bones, and everything in between, love up your skin with some high SPF Products when you’re on the go during the summer. Taking care of your skin all year long is essential but with hotter temperatures during the summer season is important. 
1. Elta MD UV
2.Superfood Enriched Daily
3. Black Girl Sunscreen SPF 30
4. Cerave SPF Sunscreen
5. Supergoop Sunscreen
6. Aveeno Sensitive Skin
7. Clinique Sensitive Skin
8. PLAY Everyday Lotion SPF 50
9. Complexion Protection Urban RX
10. Eucerin Sun Age Defense SPF 50

6. Find some free parties, events, concerts live events, brunch it up, travel with your girls, your family, and more. Plan with the girls some fun places hot girls go to is Capri, Italy, Los Angeles, CA, Miami, FL,  Ibiza, Spain, Brazil, Turks & Caicos, Antigua, Jamaica, St. Thomas, Martinique, the Bahamas, The Hamptons. 



 7. Have a “Hot Girl Makeover Spa Party!” invite all of the ladies over for a hair, makeup, pedicure and manicures for your nail, fashion trends where everyone collaborates on new looks together. While sipping fun cocktails, mocktails (no alcohol), and fun festive drinks. Check out the new make-up, nail trends for ladies online to keep your girls up to date. 


 8. Channel your inner “Gym Goddess” or “Lioness” go to the classes that work for you if it’s kickboxing, boxing, tae kwan do, tai chi, cycling, dance classes, and more will help you to improve, and plus everyone should keep their friends healthy and have a workout buddy if it works for you. Some people like going to the gym by themselves but it doesn’t hurt too. 


 9. Do something to challenge yourself during your hot girl summer too. Stepping out of your comfort zone. 



 10. Most of all you need the confidence to carry it all out and enjoy yourself, your amazingness, and most of all make the best positive memories. Every lesson is a blessing, every moment becomes a memory, and you want to always be your best self. This was this is really about being your best healthiest self at anytime of the year not just the summer is the most important thing. Have fun you hot mamacitas and enjoy your hot girl summer!!!!!

Monday, May 30, 2022

"Does the person you're with or in love with really know the real you? Do we need to be more transparent with people in relationships/dating?"










 

These last few years kicked my behind honestly….financially, spiritually, mentally, and physically we all went through a whole physical, social, and psychological transformation and breakthrough in the last 2 years during the pandemic. I honestly credit God, my faith, prayers every morning and night for the only reason why I am still standing. I went through 3 layoffs due to Covid in 2 years…many countless job rejections whether over the phone or e-mails,  relationship changes, relationship break up then makeup, then a break up again, then a possible reunion with an ex too,  oh but wait for it the ex decides to get engaged now this spring. 

Then also another person I dated decides to get his second child’s mother pregnant again after knowing full well I wanted to date him and take things a lot more seriously. I was even open to trying an open-blended family thing. Well it didn’t pan out we ended all communication in the fall of 2020. Yes my dear readers your girl these past 2 years has had her behind kicked, twirled, upside down and all around. I had to learn how to lean on myself…I leaned on my family, close girlfriends during this time. I reached out to some experts here and there. I listened to a lot of podcasts, shows, went to the gym, read a lot of books, watched tons of movies, and really just focused on what can I improve on when it comes to my relationships. Was there anything really wrong with what we were doing? I think it wasn’t what I personally was doing. 

I think it was more so what they were not telling me. They were not being fully transparent about what they were actually focused on, what they really wanted, or who they wanted to build a life with too. I also realized I need to be true to my heart as well there was someone who I was still in love with and this person we were supposed to just see each other for a brief moment, catch up, and just talk. I thought it was going to happen, but it seemed like 3 curveballs came my way, now mind you some of these situations I was FULLY AWARE of but I didn’t think would happen so quickly.


 One first curveball, my ex tells me he went to a Christmas party last 2021 contracts Covid-19 two weeks before his family is scheduled to come down to see him in his new house he just bought, and he needs to quarantine for the holiday. This I understood I was actually devastated he got Covid-19 because I felt like he was pretty health conscious, aware, plus he has a child. I would think he was fully vaccinated, plus he’s working around people, and of course with his family coming. You would think people would just be taking extra precautions anyway. I realized how much I cared about him even more when he got Covid. Him getting it made me very upset but also realize damn I wanted to be there with him too. 

Time passes I can’t see him yet because of financial reasons and work purposes. So time rolls on…then boom here we go. His ex-girlfriend and him decided to get back together March 2022. After I tell him I am back on my feet financially I am coming to see you. I get the slap in the face double times. He knows I want to see him, we are communicating about our feelings for each other all the while you know damn well you’re up to something and not being fully honest. He tells me they got back together and she moved in the middle of March. 
 Two months later….I find out he proposes to her this month in May 2022. Ok when I find out online through social media actually. My instincts were like I knew he was going to marry this chick I can feel it because why would he buy a house the first time around for her and their daughter. Then ok she cheats on you, and you take her back?

 Then you do the same thing again and this time she comes back to you. You propose it doesn’t matter the duration of time you were together. It’s about the fact that honestly this person does not give two shits about you. You actually want to build a life with someone in my opinion who is using you? How can you be with someone who didn’t even want to raise your own child you have together. She left you with the work and responsibility to raise your child? I couldn’t believe it when I heard the news, my family confirmed it, and I couldn’t handle it I called out of work recently just to have some time to reflect. 

People are around me getting engaged, married, raising their children left and right. Of course I always wanted the same, I wanted the same with a couple of people who had strong potential to be my future husband and father of our children. Unfortunately they failed, they showed me they weren’t even an ounce close to what I was looking for now. I started reflecting on my past relationships, dating, people I casually dated through online dating, apps, meeting through friends, family, work occasions, and passing through. 

I started realizing I needed to stop punishing myself cause I did nothing wrong. I realized I did what I was supposed to do, I opened myself up to love, but these people were not right for me because they treated me honestly like complete shit. They didn’t value me, they didn’t cherish me, they didn’t completely even know me, half of them don’t even know what my favorite color is….it’s pink by the way, or that I took ballet classes, girl scouts, cheerleading, gymnastics, I had braces only on my bottom teeth, that I was born in New York, I grew up in Washington, DC, and Jersey City, NJ, that I have an older brother, that I grew up with 2 stepbrothers, and a stepsister from my dad’s 2nd marriage. They don’t know I had singing lessons, that I won an art competition, that I was in the Washington Post, or that I was a soprano in the choir, they don’t know I used to watch the Food network religiously to improve my cooking skills I started cooking at age 9, that I took my first plane trip by myself when I was 7 years old, that I have 6 first cousins and a huge family. They never knew about my whole entire life everything I have experienced, gone through, and how I have grown. They knew parts of it but not the whole puzzle. Some of them probably didn’t realize I am a Christian/Catholic, I attended Catholic school, and I am a proud liberal democrat. That the two things I never eat is Black Licorice and Rum Raisin ice cream. 

My boyfriends in the past to present. I feel like they never took the time to learn me, to get to know the real me, to see the real me, the personal things I deal with, the truth, the emotions, everything. I feel like they didn’t know me….the way they were supposed to know me. I felt like damn…maybe in the end they didn’t really know me. They didn’t invest time into me. Sometimes we have to realize that some people even those closest to us don’t even really truly know us at all. Even the ones we love. Isn’t that crazy? That the person who you’re so blindly in love with doesn’t even know who you are at all. How can you take a risk to love them without them fully knowing you? Is it because we are so in to this person we go for the physical, or we rush it, or let’s say we take our time in a dating or relationship that sometimes we are so in love with the person we ignore parts of them so we can love them fully? I am not sure…but what I do know is the next person who even has a chance to coming close to me again I am doing full background checks, I want to see all social media, all photos, family members, friends, we are not going to any physical or emotional intimate at that level until I know the real you. I can’t build a life with someone I don’t know completely. I need to know the truth. I feel bad for some of these guys because we could have an awesome and pretty great life together. They chose who they wanted for their own selfish, mysterious reasons, financial, genetic purposes, physical needs, emotional needs, their ego, or whatever it was that they needed to feel that void. 

I get it you fell in love with that person to give you exactly what you needed. Maybe to feel like you’re the man….hmmm…it’s just too bad because you had someone who would have made you feel like the man and then some. I wanted to build a power couple relationship with these people. Where we would be successful in love, life, our relationship, or if it led to marriage too. I wanted us to be able to say yes….we truly are in love, happy, building a life, and we want it with this person. We cannot live or be without each other. I still feel that way. I have reflected looked at all of the memories, photos, everything from the past and I am comfortable with my single life. I can get back to just enjoying what I love to do. I am free from all relationships in the romantic sense until I know 1,000 percent this is my person. I am ready to start a new chapter, a new life, a new job, a new city, new state, or even country. The person, the man who chooses me and who I choose to have in my social circle, my life, who will add, my real soulmate, I believe everyone does have that special person out there who just gets you. Where you say “You too? You went through that, you stayed with that person, or you came out of that situation?”…they just get it like yes we made it and we finally found each other. That’s when I know this person is flesh and blood real. It’s been worth all of the dating, all of the poor choices, good choices, and changes. For me I feel like I am that leading lady character in the movie who believes in love and refuses to give up. Like I know love will conquer all and will succeed. I just need my leading man that’s all. We shall see what comes next in 2022…stay tuned my dear readers if he gets to know the real Chloe Jewel Riccardo.

Some songs that have really helped me get through this situation I included in here too. I hope they will help some of you anyone going through personal or relationship struggles behind the scenes where they just want freedom, peace of mind, and need to just let go what's best for them. 

Saturday, April 23, 2022

Ashanti celebrating album 20 years rerecording, new star for 2022 on Hollywood Walk of Fame, and new music coming

 

Songwriter, Actress, Singer, Producer, Fashion icon, fellow New Yorker, Ashanti known as the “Princess of R&B” she came out of the gate in 2002 debuted her first single, “Happy” you see this bubbly, beautiful young woman singing about her love in the song. How he makes her feel overjoyed, elated, the euphoria, and positive vibes from their relationship. Every girl who saw the video wanted to be her when she was singing, beami

ng proudly with her friends, and everyone in the video. She became the young girl next door the one we admired, wanted to follow in the footsteps, and she continues to do so. Her fashion game is incredible she’s gone from the cute girl next to door. To a fashion and glamour icon in the 21st century reminded ladies who love fashion, styling themselves in the entertainment industry and outside that it’s ok to love fashion. I personally love when celebrities look like “stars” they look like they are ready to own the streets, the red carpet, and they are aware of the cameras by the official paparazzi. 

I love when a star looks like they know their purpose, they have followed their passion, they’re ready to share their taste of fashion and more with their fans. This is something that they need to aspire to do. I remember sitting in the hair salon as a little girl wanting and emulating my favorite stars. So, people are probably wondering why 20 years later did she wait so long to rerecord her album again? What’s the difference well she was about 21 or so when the album first debuted, she had been working since she was in her teen years. The difference is she didn’t own her masters to all of her records, her original recordings, and publishing from her music. 


That’s why it was so important for her to actually rerecord the music and take ownership. It’s so important for all artists to express, own, and produce their own creative genius, ideas no matter how minute or lavish their ideas maybe they want to convey to their audience and listeners. It’s important for them to own creative influence of their work and to earn their royalties as an artist. So now that she is rerecording her debut album, “Ashanti” she will be able to use her music not just only for her ownership as an artist but for generations to come other artists and she will be able to use it however she sees fit in commercials, promotions, events, personal use, documentaries, and other artist will have that opportunity as well. Recently on April 7, 2022 in honor of her debut album Ashanti received her walk of fame star in Los Angeles, California by the walk of fame streets and her mother/manager presented the award along with her collaborator, Hip-Hop legend, star, Ja Rule, actress, Tichina Arnold, Ashanti’s family, friends were all in support of the event. This is major the stars are lining up for her even more. I just saw one of Ashanti’s latest projects which I thought was insanely genius, “Honey Girls or La Miel Femme” the film is on Netflix is where her art imitated her real life and she discovers three unknown talented girls who have something special as a group and are multitalented she steps in to mentor and guide them all the way to success. Ashanti has seen success in film with movies like “Coach Carter”, “John Tucker Must Die”, “The Muppets”, “A Christmas Winter Song”, and “Mothers & Daughters” and of course most recently “The Honey Girls” so with that being said this songwriter, dancer, singer, actress has truly personified that you can do it all and you can voice your opinions on anything that is rightfully yours and you will succeed when you fight for what you have created and more. Congratulations to one of our top R&B artists on her work and what she has accomplished and we will all see more from her in the future as an artist, a mentor to others, and a top female in the music industry. For more information follow her on all social media YouTube, Instagram, Twitter, Tik Tok and more. Stay tuned for more news and upcoming shows. Visit http://www.ashantithisisme.com



















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Wendy Williams a new chapter and beginning as she's steps down from national talk show

Wendy Williams received her Walk of Fame star in Los Angeles, California on October 17, 2019

 

I am so proud of this incredible woman she’s a fighter, no matter how you look at her story she keeps on pushing over and over again. For the past 12 years since July 2009 when her show became official after a 6-week sneak preview. She has had everyone in pop culture 21st century on her purple couch and sofas. She has become a force of nature branching off into different sides of media, television, entertainment, and more. How can you deny what she has done as a radio broadcaster, now television show host, a pop culture icon, businesswoman, opening doors for many young-talented stars, up and coming entrepreneurs, chefs, television, internet, radio personalities, newscasters, bloggers, and more. She has done an incredible job with showing the world, young inspiring broadcasters you don’t limit yourself to one thing. One job no you do everything by any means and continue on when everything but the kitchen sink has been thrown at you. You fight to the end, you continue finding people who you can aspire and open doors for too at the same time. 


 How has she impacted pop culture well she created a catchphrase every knows, her famous words from her radio show on WBLS in New York City, Pennsylvania, and many contributions she has made in the radio business industry. She has broken down doors for so many women because she showed them all that all of us can have a voice, you can speak your mind, we don’t have to be censored. You are allowed to be on radio, television, digital media, social media, and be free within your individuality, your being, your truth, and not give a damn about anything the critics or even people who may work with you have to say. She’s gone against even opinions of people who were apart of her journey in the beginning of her career. Yet she kept pushing because she knew her voice was going to carry their airwaves and hit people. That she has done consistently for the past 30 plus years in her career. I can only imagine what she’s going to do next in her career when she is 100 percent her best healthy, complete self. 



 She may have stepped down from that famous purple velvet chair but I don’t believe she is done quite yet. Wendy you have made an incredible mark in the media, business, pop culture, entertainment industries for women of all walks of life. I remember she said in one of her books she considered herself “A misfit”…well let’s just say this misfit the tall little girl from Ocean Township, New Jersey became a media conglomerate star with books, television shows, movies, comedy shows, fashion line, wig line, and yes a talk show that has changed the whole trajectory of how to connect with her audience and teach us all “Just be me, just be free, and just live without limitations”. Wendy congratulations on your 2021 Crain’s Business award for one of the most powerful women in New York City. I haven’t met her one on one but I have been to her show one time, I watched her show almost every day, and couldn’t be more proud of this amazon woman. Powerful, Fearless, Strong, Sensitive, Empathetic, Honest, Vulnerable, and Raw. You can’t deny that she shared every piece of her life with us. She has opened so many doors for all of us who may be in media, journalism, broadcast, and pop culture industries. She is opening a wide door for new talent to come in, new producers an era of new producers, new talk show hosts, new stories to come to the television and radio broadcast industries. It’s time for more new voices to be discovered on mainstream media and all over the globe. Very excited to see this new era of talk radio and television of new voices, new experiences, and new opinions on how we can improve our lives especially at this time too. For more information visit http://www.wendyshow.com on her show, and more information on the next and new beginning of her career and journey. We love you Wendy, I love you Wendy thank you entertaining us these past 3 decades and with your television show for 13 years has been amazing.











Struggling to let someone you still love go....

 



Struggle of letting something or someone you still love I am struggling like hell in the relationship and love department Finding someone isn’t the problem. It’s keeping them engaged, stimulated, happy, because every person who I was with wants something else other than me. They want people who they had long-time relationships with in the past. I have kept a lot in my heart throughout this pandemic it’s crazy how a global pandemic not only affect the matters of our livelihood but the matters of our heart caused a plagued on our love lives. The truth was revealed and people were hiding so much in their relationships and marriages that were kept hidden in their minds. I have dealt with the constant highs and low of relationships. Jealousy, Heartbreak, Confusion, Hope, Promise, Happiness, Desire, Pain, Betrayal, Lies, Deception, Disappointment. There is a song when I was a teenager I remember the video and words clearly by this singer, Vivian Green, “Emotional Rollercoaster” , “If I was your woman” was originally written by Gladys Knight and later, Alicia Keys reproduced and sampled the song with her own hip-hop/r&b twist in 2001 with her debut album. That song resonate with me now definitely because I am in not a love triangle but I am in a damn square. There’s 4 people in this situation 2 of them is me and ex-boyfriend, who happens to be a long-term off and on relationship with his baby mama. By the way not my first time dealing with someone with children. 


This is my fourth or fifth time either talking to someone, dating, or being involved with a person who has kids of their own. This person as I said I have written about him many times on my blog but never revealed who he is, my friends, some family members know who I am talking about. I was crazy in love, infatuated, and just was drawn to this person. I knew he was incredibly special and just was hooked. I was so damn mesmerized I was running to see him. I want everyone to keep in mind a couple of important details one we lived out of state from each other so it was a long distanced relationship, two we were young in our 20s we were both fresh out of college, not settled yet, and the third we both have dated other people since we broke up. 

We were really together only for a few months. It was short but I always wanted us to stay together longer. Our connection, our chemistry was strong that kind of chemistry you can feel the electricity between the two of us standing in the room. Now fast forward 12 years we both have dated other people, he got into a long-term relationship with a woman he met in his hometown. The last time we saw each other was January 2010 he dropped me off at the airport on his way to take his grandmother to see his late grandfather. Now there’s a couple of plot twists in our connection that are interesting. The first connection is his grandmother was married to my mother’s half-brother’s father. No blood line, no relation. So he is my biological’s uncle’s “step-nephew” they’re not related at all. No blood line, no connection accept through his father getting married after he dated by grandmother. Funny I know I am sharing this part because of course in every relationship there is a backstory. Now that’s not the part that’s the issue. Here’s the problem from my perspective….my timing has been off. I have kept myself distracted, entertaining some friendships, “situationships”, relationships that were not beneficial for me in the romantic, healthy, thriving way. The way where you see things blossoming to the next level and the next. That’s what I wanted for us it took me a long time, a baby girl (his daughter), and failed relationships to realize that you still are crazy about this person. I turned into that “crazy ex-girlfriend” behind the scenes. Even when I was dating other people I compared them to him. He wasn’t aware of this I hate to admit it but I did even though I would move on, get into a relationship, date someone, go on with my life. People don’t think I wasn’t living I was living long after we broke up believe me. We split 2010 so in between that time a lot of life happened he graduated a year earlier than myself, I graduated June 2010, was working for a real estate law firm, doing internships, and focusing on my next move. He was struggling for work because of the economy I remember it was vicious for both of us trying to get stable jobs in our field. Eventually we both did it took time but we did. I landed with an internship a year later with Black Enterprise Magazine. Some of you know how the rest of that story if you revisit my “2011” tab in my blog. I was moving forward I was also ready to get into a serious- committed situations or even living situations. There are a few times I was ready to leave move out, go further with these people. To my detriment some of these situations didn’t pan out because we wanted other things. I always kept feeling like there was someone else, something drawing me to another soul another person. In 2014, I got my answer actually ok so I am in St. Louis, Mo because my paternal grandmother and my great-grandmother both passed the same month, a week a part, and year. We all flew in some of us stayed at his grandmother’s house. Which was a huge help and blessing really. So while we are out visiting our family members and so on. I get the news his girlfriend’s pregnant. Talk about crushed, I was sitting there with my face plastered with a smile but underneath I wanted to sink into a dark cave. I was hurt, jealous, and felt like she gave him everything I actually wanted to give him. Did the thought cross my mind about being the first to give him a child. Absolutely yes! I did he was one of the people I had on my radar actually. So I was happy for him but inside my heart was churning like damn he’s really in love with this person. Their baby girl arrived beautiful, happy, healthy, and spitting image of her father. He was perfect for his new role as a father he always wanted to be one. I knew in my heart he would be great because of how he gravitated towards children. He was a natural and he's a big brother too. Comes from a big family so I wasn’t surprised he wanted children. So I was happy but I still felt this sting in my chest like “Dream deferred…not going to happen”. After we split the first time….a year later it’s funny I dated someone with the same name just to “replace” him. I didn’t realize it until years later I replaced someone else with a “doppelganger” a “copycat” version of him. Sort of but this doppelganger became a local news reporter. Interesting right? 

So it took me a few years to really heal, like truly heal my heart and the pain I felt. I dated here and there…..I met a lot of interesting characters throughout (2010-2015). 2015, I fell into a committed long-distanced relationship until my ex boyfriend moved back to our hometown New York he was from Jamaica native but his family resided in from Brooklyn. I met my ex-boyfriend you all know the rest of this story. I dated other people as well but I felt like there was always still something missing. This piece of the puzzle that wasn’t quite filled yet. As if I was missing a limb. I realized that a lot of it had to do with this longing for someone else I thought I was completely over. 

I realized my feelings still lingered for this person. After some really serious situations that occurred in 2020. I realized earlier this year I wanted to kind of just silence myself for a minute. My ex and I took a break in November of 2021 and I decided to focus and reach out to the ex I still really had feelings for. Success occurred I had reached out to him in December of 2020 actually and he was doing his thing at that time. He moved to a new place, a new job, settled in, and for me I was also working and trying to get things ready to see him. 2021 went quickly and we both wanted to see each other but the timing was kind of crazy I ended up getting back with one of my exes for a little while (messy I know) and then we split as I said officially around my birthday. We are good friends still but I think he and I we both know I want a family, to settle into my adulthood, expand my family. I also want to focus on business plans, my passions writing, screenwriting, designing clothes, some other projects and businesses too. He’s more passionate about his own business ventures, goals, he has accomplished some great things too. However, I realize when someone doesn’t want what you want at that moment. You go ahead and you must revaluate yourself, reevaluate what happened. Take some time and just think about how to compromise, do you want to move forward, can you compromise?, can you have that conversation, or can you go on a new journey to find someone new when you are forced to let someone you love go. I have come to realize that everything has a beginning to a story even before you meet the person you will fall in love with or begin a relationship with too. They have a beginning of love stories prior to you, some stories they may still be writing with someone else every story has a low point, a high point, success, and different themes that come with that story whether it’s a love story, a friendship, or even in your family. It’s all up to what is best for you, your life, and what makes you happiest. Sometimes it’s also about what you need as well.

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